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TheBuffetInspector · 2025-04-08T22:45:35+00:00

She couldn't decide which nursery friends to invite. Whether it would be 360 or local Wacky. I gave her £250 towards either. She's going to Sea-Life Centre with her Mum. So, not only no party. No invite either. I'm a bit pissed off to be honest.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/04/2025 00:06

TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:03

It'll be more fun. I'll make sure of it 😂

I can't ask for the money back.

Maybe she thinks I'm thick! A day out is a lot of money, but it wasn't what it was for.

I'm just ranting, I won't see it again. She'll not thank me kindly for my arsey text. I'll be getting it in the ear tomorrow via the voice thingy!

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I don't blame you for sending it though.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's really bad of your GD's mother.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:07

Never again!

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CandidExpert · 09/04/2025 00:08

You can and should ask for the money back.

"I gave you £250 for the proposed party for my grandaughter and her nursery friends. As you didn't have the party and went to the the Sea Life Centre with your Mum instead, you have not needed or used the money for a birthday party so I expect you to do the decent thing and return it to me so I can use it in future for my grandchild as originally intended."

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:09

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/04/2025 00:06

I don't blame you for sending it though.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's really bad of your GD's mother.

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Let's all go to Sea Life, £250 was more than enough!

Nope.

Well relations have certainly soured now. I'm such an idiot.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:10

CandidExpert · 09/04/2025 00:08

You can and should ask for the money back.

"I gave you £250 for the proposed party for my grandaughter and her nursery friends. As you didn't have the party and went to the the Sea Life Centre with your Mum instead, you have not needed or used the money for a birthday party so I expect you to do the decent thing and return it to me so I can use it in future for my grandchild as originally intended."

No I can't. It's gone. I know it will be gone.
It was probably gone within a couple of days.

I'm not going down that route.

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DiscoBeat · 09/04/2025 00:12

I too would be asking for the money back, since if was for a party which didn't happen! You can take her out separately instead.
I really don't understand the 360/Wacky comment though?? Assuming a typo!

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/04/2025 00:13

Well, relations have certainly soured now. I'm such an idiot.

Has something like this happened before then?

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:15

DiscoBeat · 09/04/2025 00:12

I too would be asking for the money back, since if was for a party which didn't happen! You can take her out separately instead.
I really don't understand the 360/Wacky comment though?? Assuming a typo!

No, no typo - they were the indoor snot places... 360 - large, bit more expensive
Wacky, cheap n cheerful.

£250 towards either, or.

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TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:17

What did you say when you offered the money?

I can see certain phrasing where it may not have been particularly unreasonable for her to infer it had been given for a nice treat to celebrate her birthday and not more specifically a large party

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:19

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 09/04/2025 00:13

Well, relations have certainly soured now. I'm such an idiot.

Has something like this happened before then?

Well she's the 23 year old that knows it all and her Mum hates my son 🙄 so yes, it's always been slightly fraught. They seperated early on, but my side of the family have always been there.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:21

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:17

What did you say when you offered the money?

I can see certain phrasing where it may not have been particularly unreasonable for her to infer it had been given for a nice treat to celebrate her birthday and not more specifically a large party

It wasn't a contract and I wasn't asking for it back.

She contacted me about birthday parties... Read upwards.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:23

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:17

What did you say when you offered the money?

I can see certain phrasing where it may not have been particularly unreasonable for her to infer it had been given for a nice treat to celebrate her birthday and not more specifically a large party

When she's sent me quotes per child at this place or that, children coming from GD nursery.
Working out how many.
Hence £250 should cover more than enough.

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caringcarer · 09/04/2025 00:26

Next year your dgd has a birthday give it to your son to organise his DD a party.

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:27

TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:21

It wasn't a contract and I wasn't asking for it back.

She contacted me about birthday parties... Read upwards.

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I appreciate that you are upset but I feel that was a bit unnecessarily snappy.

I read your OP and believe that my question is still valid, that after she had said she couldn't decide between the two and you gave her money towards either, that it is possible, depending on what was actually said, that she may have inferred that using it towards other options for birthday would be okay

Sorry you are having a bad day

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:28

TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:23

When she's sent me quotes per child at this place or that, children coming from GD nursery.
Working out how many.
Hence £250 should cover more than enough.

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Yes that does seem more party focused with less room to decide to do something else

I can understand you feeling quite out out

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:31

caringcarer · 09/04/2025 00:26

Next year your dgd has a birthday give it to your son to organise his DD a party.

Absolutely.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:34

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:28

Yes that does seem more party focused with less room to decide to do something else

I can understand you feeling quite out out

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There was no inference it was 360 with less kids esp with adult prices too on top (I wasn't willing to lose 10 3 year olds in 360)
Or more at wacky with food etc for adults.
It should have covered both options. It hasn't.

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:37

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:27

I appreciate that you are upset but I feel that was a bit unnecessarily snappy.

I read your OP and believe that my question is still valid, that after she had said she couldn't decide between the two and you gave her money towards either, that it is possible, depending on what was actually said, that she may have inferred that using it towards other options for birthday would be okay

Sorry you are having a bad day

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If you've given £250 for a specific reason, you might feel unnecessarily snappy. Bad day or not.

It is what it is.

She was telling me how much she loved me that day and GD was blessed to have me.

I thought she'd gone quiet 🙄

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WhyCantIGetItTogether · 09/04/2025 00:38

TyneTeas · 09/04/2025 00:27

I appreciate that you are upset but I feel that was a bit unnecessarily snappy.

I read your OP and believe that my question is still valid, that after she had said she couldn't decide between the two and you gave her money towards either, that it is possible, depending on what was actually said, that she may have inferred that using it towards other options for birthday would be okay

Sorry you are having a bad day

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You really have to twist your logic like a pretzel to make this posssible

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:42

caringcarer · 09/04/2025 00:26

Next year your dgd has a birthday give it to your son to organise his DD a party.

We still will have a lovely day. Luckily they all came here for Christmas on 16th Dec (GD and Mum were moving towns on 21st) as I got struck down by flu or Covid... I didn't even see my own kids over Christmas - they ended up at my Mums. New Year too 😭 so she's used to having multiple dates.

Oh GD Mum's reason for not holding a party is that she'd fallen out with everyone.??
That's what I got today.

It's all hard work and I'm a Mug 😁

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:43

WhyCantIGetItTogether · 09/04/2025 00:38

You really have to twist your logic like a pretzel to make this posssible

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Don't make me hangry! 🤣

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:51

Well, I am going to try and sleep (again) after an unrelated shocking day.

I can see IWBU for even thinking the money would book a party for nursery friends.
IWNBU for having faith and trust in someone.

GD will have a lovely bday at sea life with her other Nana 😭 I prefer picnics in the park, kicking a football at Daddy and going on the swings anyway!! Yeah, so there! 😕🤣

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Littleburdie · 09/04/2025 01:12

TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 00:09

Let's all go to Sea Life, £250 was more than enough!

Nope.

Well relations have certainly soured now. I'm such an idiot.

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No, you are not the idiot OP. She is. Fool you once…

MarxistMags · 09/04/2025 01:21

What a shame. It's horrible when you feel someone has taken advantage of you - especially when money is involved. But never mind your GD face when you see her will make you feel better X

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TheBuffetInspector · 09/04/2025 01:25

MarxistMags · 09/04/2025 01:21

What a shame. It's horrible when you feel someone has taken advantage of you - especially when money is involved. But never mind your GD face when you see her will make you feel better X

I know.

Nanny!!!!!!!!

On that note, I am going to conk out (with a smile).

She's my pride and joy, when it's put like that, I don't care where the money went ❤️

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