Gave Granddaughter's Mum £250 towards her 3rd birthday party

[TheBuffetInspector]

She couldn't decide which nursery friends to invite. Whether it would be 360 or local Wacky.

I gave her £250 towards either.

She's going to Sea-Life Centre with her Mum.

So, not only no party. No invite either.

I'm a bit pissed off to be honest.

I didn't mean you @GRex

Aimed at the DM purists.

I made our toddler grandson’s birthday cake again this year, confidently expecting to be invited as we were last year. Then we were told there wasn’t going to be a party. Both parents working demanding full time, so just thought ‘Oh well. Hope they enjoy the cake.’ Then told that my DIL’s family were going to be there, but it still ‘wasn’t a party.’ Got several photos sent of what clearly was a party. Loads of balloons, other children, her family, presents and my cake, with candles, being shared. Trying not to be annoyed and focus on the fact that they loved the cake.

’accidentally’ 👍

D'oh! Should have quit after the first sentence.

Nevermind. It happens to the best of us.
Personally, I have no wish to engage with you whatsoever.

That said. Don't comment on a situation you know fuck all about.

Don't judge my family. That includes DGs Mum and DG.

Don't assume.

Don't even post if all you have to contribute is bullshit and lies.

Thank you.

How does a grown man end up relying on the much younger mother of his child for both housing and employment?

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

No problem, i was clear in context I thought.

No. You said he lost everything when she moved away. I'm just wondering how?

Cool. I'd hate to have a fall out 😂

I thought the MN line was 'it's a gift!' But yeah, I'd only accept money for a specific purpose if I expected to spend it on that thing.

That’s terrible 😢

I'm not discussing that with you.

It's not your business.

Well.. Fucking rental agreements.

Happy now 🙄

Even the vultures are dull.

I'm done.
I'm off.
Froff and
Froff
In your own juices.

I couldn't give a shit. I need to go out and plant some more potatoes.
And tomatoes because I left them out in the frost.
I might get some onions in today.
Strawberry plants are already picking up.
Raspberry canes looking good.

Guess what? My poor poor Granddaughter might have to eat food that did not come from a business conglomerate.

Ok, you started out this thread as a pile on about your DIL’s horrible slight towards you and her lip filler (although you clearly also have feelings of loyalty to her which is nice to see), but the second someone offers their reasonable opinion that she’s within her rights to use whatever cash she ACTUALLY gets from her non contributing ex’s side, it’s bullying.

And all my comments have included your perspective as well, acknowledging she could have done better and the money was valuable to you.

And god forbid anyone point out that your son is, in fact, not contributing to his child’s upbringing. Yes I know things are hard so I didn’t mean it as a judgment, but as context to the fact that it would be perfectly ok for your DIL to repurpose the money.

On me finding a 25 and 19 year old couple weird in the abstract (note: I never said that was your son in the post, I was responding to someone else saying 19/25 isn’t weird), I apologise again if you take that as a smear against your son. As others have already pointed out I am probably prudish and ignorant. Fyi me and my partner got together in a situation we openly acknowledge could potentially be seen as weird/inappropriate by others. Life is weird. I’d rather not have my daughter knocked up by a 4-5 year older mid-20s man while she’s in or fresh out of uni or college but life takes weird turns for all of us.

Oh @Fran2023 I'm so sorry missed this due to the pile on.

That's really heartbreaking. I do hope you got some kind of explanation.

I'm so sorry xx

Meant to quote this. I really don’t know why you’re banging on about bullshit and lies. Again all my posts have included your perspective that DIL should indeed have been more transparent.

Anyway guess you got the validation you wanted in the first few pages with the selective omission of the fact that she gets fuck all from her ex and £250 could be much needed for her. I’m out of this thread as you wanted.

🤣 That is all.

And @Hitheretoo 25 and 19 are not the correct ages so stop banging on. Please. Thank you.

Oh dear this thread's taken a turn

@Hitheretoo you took the bullshit and you ran with it.

I gave you the truth.

I never once said that I wanted you off the thread. Although, fuck me, it would have been nice to save me some effort.

Don't read other people's shite and take it on as your own. I know the ages. There was never any 'teen' involved.

As I’ve said multiple times, I was replying to a poster saying 19 and 25 isn’t weird. To me it is. To others it isn’t. End of story. I never said it was your son - in fact the second you said she was 21 I apologised and reiterated it didn’t apply to them. I still find 19/20 and 25 weird. You don’t need to take everyone’s opinions as a mortal slight against your beloved son who can do no wrong.

Your demanding an apology for my “slur against your son’s character” (😂) for my pretty neutrally stating he is a deadbeat father who does not contribute financially - and not as an unnecessary insult but as context to the £250 - says a lot. Look up the term “boy mom”.

No it hasn't, it's been like this since 6.30am.

Ok

It took a turn at 6.30 am then 😂

Which was nice.

Anyway I have things to tend to, and it's not defending myself, my son, my GD or my GDs Mum from the MN Massive (? Hillock?).

It's been a pleasure as always.

If you don’t have money to spare, why give her 250 quid, whether she used it for a party or not?

You see that bit where I wrote - clearly I did.

That.

Tara chucks!