Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

Ugh! I despair at OP’s like this! 😞

I am with you on the bit about good hygiene, and I do not mind either way about hair extensions, but excessive makeup, overly whitened teeth, fake tan, and large fake boobs are all major turnoffs to me, personally. If they make you feel good, then go for it, I guess, but definitely do not assume that "men" are attracted to that.

Your second paragraph really made me laugh. I popped to the coop today in my lunch break whilst WFH and I truly did look terrifying when I caught a glimpse of myself in a car window! No fucks given any more.

My mum is 70. 3 nose jobs, a face lift, new teeth, gum surgery, hair extensions, etc etc.

She's put herself through hell and she is still not happy. She has thousands of awful weird men telling her she looks great on Facebook.

That is your future if this is the path you choose.

I am happy - fairly natural, with a loving husband and gorgeous kids and a dog. Couldn’t give a fig what random men think.

Well if it’s sleeping with men you want, then you don’t actually need to invest that much time, effort and especially money in it.

I had none of those attributes (except the boobs, but that’s because I was fat) and trust me , there was no lack of attention, relationships or sleeping with men when I was younger. If I wanted to, I could. That’s literally what it came down to.

So what exactly are you looking for?

I feel sorry for you. I really, honestly do. And I am not trying to be patronising.

I feel sorry that you are in your prime at a time where you don't consider being healthy and attractive enough. That you honestly think you need 'tweaks' in order to achieve the closest you can to a 10 so that men want to sleep with you.

OP there is a small minority of people (male and female) that think that the Love Island tan/white teeth/big boobs/bunda/hair extensions look is attractive. Most people GENUINELY think lip fillers look ridiculous, fake eyelashes look ugly and a natural glow is classy and beats an orange tan hands down. My DD is 19 and I would say she is conventionally reasonably attractive, but she isn't perfect. She likes looking nice but neither she nor her boyfriend or either of their circles find that look you are describing anything other than tacky and laughable.

I know it sounds old and clichéd, but please PLEASE enjoy your youth and natural glow whilst you have it. Stop worrying about plastic boobs and turkey-teeth. All of those things are really not what most people find attractive and I would put my house on you looking more attractive as you are than you would with 'tweaks'. It's bullshit I tell you.

There's nothing more attractive than a person comfortable in their own skin, these 'enhancements' are anything but. If you want the generic blonde, big tit, big lips, turkey teef look then crack on...you'll just disappear into the crowd of identikit clones

beautiful 🤔
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Xm178Njiu_I
If you want that in your body then go for it! Hope you got enough wonga if they need removing and replacing.

lol!

Usually women start stressing about "wanting to make myself perfect" when they feel unfulfilled somewhere else. What is there exactly that you are trying to solve by becoming thin-tall-75DD etc woman?

Those people on instagram don’t look like that in real life. Check out Stephanie Lange on YouTube she has some great videos on this d

Honestly, attractiveness is not about conforming to beauty standards, it’s about radiating warmth, joy, kindness.

The look you are describing is paid for and obvious. It tells men you are desperate and available. You’ll get a lot of superficial attention for that reason. I’m not sure it increases chances of genuine connection.

I was looking at Cindy Crawford daughters instagram page the other day and she is so beautiful , very slim and dark in such a natural way .Not big busted at all. Nothing fake about her . Why would you want to look like another clone I really don’t get it.

Oh my god, no men as a whole do NOT find the makeup, hair extensions, fake tan, turkey teeth look attractive. 😂 I don’t know anyone close to me who looks like that and we all have very happy long term marriages/relationships with men who absolutely find us attractive. My dh would have run a mile if I’d turned up with hair extensions and fake tan (never used either in my life). Lots of men prefer a more classic, relaxed, low maintenance look.

Also it really is true that looks fade. Or can change dramatically and unexpectedly. I’ve recently had cancer surgery, which has unfortunately significantly and permanently changed how I look. I have very visible scars even fully clothed going to the shop. If a man gets with you because you look hot and glam at 25, but it turns out you’re dumb as rocks and boring as hell with no ambition in life, you’re gonna get dropped like a hot potato when you need a mastectomy at 35 or you start getting wrinkles at 40.

Absolutely you should create the life and the body you love, but don’t go for a certain look to keep a man. Because that sort of man isn’t going to value you when your appearance starts to change. It will all be built on shoddy foundations.

What depressingly shallow, vapid nonsense. Some people are naturally beautiful. Sorry, but having fake boobs, a tan and whitened teeth doesn't make you beautiful. It just makes you look like you, but with fake boobs, a tan and whitened teeth. How about striving to be your best rather than look your best?

Yes, and your point is? It boils down to the same thing!

Instagram isn’t the real world though is it? I don’t see many people looking that way walking down the street. What happens when they wake up with zero makeup on they probably look just like everyone else.

Have you considered exploring this with a therapist?

I was watching Olivia Atwood documentary about plastic surgery on ITV and in one segment she went to a hair implant place and they told her women who’d had their public hair lasered off years ago were coming in to have their pubic hair re inserted. You may have also noticed Kim Kardashian’s has got smaller boobs and had a lot of her filler dissolved. There’s nothing wrong with looking your best, nice hair and teeth and being slim are all definitely going to make you look attractive. But the Jury’s out on the fake teeth, boobs, and lips. A lot of people hate that look. Just look at Katie Proce and how far she’s gone. I’m not saying don’t take care of yourself but don’t fall for ‘the beauty myth’. There’s a good book actually called that.

Your idea of beauty sounds too Love Island to me. I don’t know anyone in real life who likes that look.

Men have been arrested for having sex with the exhaust pipe of a car and a pile of leaves.

I really wouldn’t put in too much effort.

I had my boobs done in my late teens (pcos and I was a AA, completely flat). I’m very happy with them.

However, once you start down that path, you normally fixate on something else. I lost weight and have a flat stomach but now very self conscious about my flat bum which is most likely genetic (I have very narrow hips, skinny limbs and broad shoulders/back).

I’ve had botox and lip fillers in the past but I’m getting my filler dissolved tomorrow. I’ve realised that there is only so much you can chase for ‘perfection’. Unless you have an unlimited cash pot, it’s very hard to keep up with it all.

Regarding being 10/10 for men, looking back I was very attractive in my late teens/early twenties and often scouted for modelling. Men still used to treat me like shit and cheat during that time. Try and work on your self esteem. Easier said than done, I’m currently trying to aswell!

You do realise that there’s a very sizeable chunk of the male population who don’t sleaze over women on social media don’t you?

Literally this.

If you live for the male gaze, you’ll set your self worth by their gaze. Don’t do it.

Ive so many family and friends with fillers, surgery, inches of make-up. They all look the same. Blend into each other. I find it so sad.

Do something interesting for yourself that brings you joy and inner confidence. Then watch them crawl out of the woodwork wanting some of that.

This isn't real, surely.

If it is, having bigger breasts really isn't anything. I had the most beautiful natural breasts, spectacular if I were to quote several boyfriends. Then got cancer, had a double mastectomy (my choice). I did not have a reconstruction, nor do I wear falsies. I am so much happier in my body now. Why am I tell you this? Because you need to learn to love yourself for you, not what you think will make you more attractive to men. Not all men like big(ger) fake tits, fake hair, lots of make-up, and those who do, well, tbh, do you want to attract someone whom is interested in your solely because of how you look? If you do, I suggest therapy. In fact, step away from TikTok and use your time working on your self-esteem.