Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

You can live your life for how you look to other people or - you can just live it, make peace with your face and body, enjoy what your body can do instead of constantly thinking what it looks like to other people. Basically, have an inner life not just an mage. Get off Tik Tok and you'll definitely be much happier!

No not about income, I'm not trying to become an influencer. I just want to look good while I'm young.

They're happy and say, 'wow, 10/10, amazing' etc etc on Tiktok/Instagram if the woman is slim and has big boobs, and often also covered in make up/filtered etc etc, but it's mainly just the slim with boobs...

In that case it’s really easy, just wait ten years and you’ll look back and realise you were perfectly fine as you were!

How young? Because I’m 35 and honestly love, it’s over. 😂

@Masmavi Funnily enough, I don't actually have a Tiktok account I just scroll through and look at content!

And I think it's natural for young women to want to be found attractive by men. Men notice beauty, they want to sleep with attractive women.

You can’t have it both ways. Either you want to be the barbie doll men want, because that’s what THEY want. Or you want to be beautiful for yourself, in which case , men’s opinion is irrelevant and it’s about what you consider beautiful.

You want to be someone(everyone)’s wet dream? Go ahead.. but own it.

There will be men on all sorts of profiles saying the same thing to women of wildly different looks, shapes etc.

I do own it.....Men all want to sleep with attractive women if they're being honest. Or, what our society considers attractive at the moment.

“we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best”
And then you go on to list a whole load of attributes - big tits, Turkey teeth, fake tan, hair extensions - that for many are the antithesis of beauty, an identikit blow-up doll version of female ‘perfection’ that’s defined by the male gaze, drag, porn and reality TV.

Quite.

I just want to look good while I'm young

So stop with the surgery, turkey teeth, extensions, and no doubt shoving chemicals into your face and painting your skin orange.
None of that will make you look good.

I feel sorry for you OP.
It must be sad to have such low self esteem that you need to change from who you really are.

My thoughts are that once you are comfortable and happy with who you are you can go out without makeup, wearing shit clothes and not having done your roots, and literally not give a flying fuck and still be incredibly happy. That is happiness. It took many years for me to get here but here I am. And the fact that I get less attention from dickhead men is like the golden prize and cherry on top.
I still get attention from men looking like that just not the overly sleezy horrible kind , more helpful and nice kind of men.
I purposely don't give a fuck now. Kf course some occassions I have to dress up which I do.

I found it amusing when I was acccused by some twat bloke of taking stuff out the waitrose food bank bin, when in actual fact I was putting about 30 quid of stuff in. I looked like a right tramp in socks and sliders but I actually earn about 200k a year. It was a fine moment asking him how much he actually puts in on a weekly basis, and putting his judgemental arse back in its place

I still consider 35 quite young! I consider 40 and under still quite young.

Agree with this

and everyone gets older and looks fade, much better to learn to be comfortable with yourself in the first place.

Are you on a bet to see how many times you can get the word boobs into your thread. For fucks sake - grow up!

You need to find better men rather than try and fix your body to please the losers you seem to know.

Please just get your boob job (I hereby give you permission) and start looking attractive to men so that they want to sleep with you whilst you are young.

Then you can stop starting posts on the same subject and spare us your views (which are not ours).

Good luck.

Correction: They want to get their gratification with these women. I'd much rather have a man who wants to sleep with me, the person, rather than just use my body.

Well thank you!

However, my days of caring what I look like ended a few years ago. I do not have the energy or patience to make myself look like a Barbie doll to please anyone, nevermind men.

Why would you base your self worth on how many men superficially like your appearance? Doesn’t that make it harder to find out who actually cares about you?

Trying to compete with Bonnie Blue @ThisChic ?

Men will sleep with pretty much any women - it’s not difficult.

Men will sleep with anything. Really and truly. Also if your one goal in life is being sexually desirable to men, it’s going to be a hollow and sad and lonely life.

Do you think these people are real? Loads are using filters and these ridiculous beauty standards are forged out of a culture which is designed to keep us spending.

Perhaps do some exercise, practice self acceptance, look after your skin and hair etc, drink water, find some good friends to belly laugh with and something meaningful to do...you'll eventually stop looking at these women as something to aspire to as you will be happy in your own skin. That's what is truly attractive.

It doesn't work that way, work on using your brain more and you may realise the 'more attractive' they are to other people are the ones happy within themselves

And how do you know a lot of their followers might be female, and having lots of followers doesn't make anyone better and I can't believe people have to be taught that

You come across as having crushingly low self esteem. Is there a story behind that?

You say you want men to think you are 10/10. Really? It’s just so puerile and shallow. I feel really sorry for you.