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Friends daughter(16) ruined designer dress

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kidditsonyou · 03/04/2025 21:19

DSD (22) works around fashion so has a lot of clothes and often gets designer items at good price.

Friend asked if her daughter could borrow a dress for her 16th birthday. I asked DSD who agreed, she often lends clothes to friends and family. Dress chose and borrowed was very expensive and covered in intricate beading, DSD got it heavily reduced but still cost several hundred. DSD says she heavily pushed for daughter to try it on while she was there but she refused, was told it fit perfectly.

Dress returned today and is very damaged.
Zip tape is ripped, Inside lining is ripped and main body is very stretched and warped. Several areas of beading damaged and quite a lot of beads missing. No mention of this when dropped off.

DSD reckons is not repairable / not worth repairing because of the amount of different areas of damage. Previous plan was that DSD would also lend a prom dress.
DSD is very kind and anxious, she is not likely to kick up a fuss or demand anything but is upset. I feel responsible as the initial conversation came through me.

What’s reasonable in this situation? It’s not unreasonable to refuse lending of prom dress and also request at least the price DSD paid for the dress, is it? (Though she wouldn’t be able to get the same dress at that price again)
I know this would be a lot of money for friend

OP posts:
Thebloodynine · 07/04/2025 11:47

CoraPirbright · 07/04/2025 10:04

I was in a dress shop the other day and there was a prom section. The owner was moaning to me about people coming in so late and expecting everything to be ready on time. I am not sure if this is the normal thing but she only has the ones to try on in the shop - they all have to be ordered and there is quite a lead time on this. The CFs need to get their skates on if they realise that their frankly appalling behaviour means that they won’t be borrowing a dress from your DSD.

That’s if you go for made to order. They could go buy an evening dress in any high street shop the day before prom if necessary.

SuperFishy · 14/04/2025 17:45

I'd send an email with photos of damage attached. I'd be nice, saying that I'd lost money due to loan damage charges so under the circumstances would not be happy to go ahead with the loan of another dress for prom. Any decent person would at least apologise for the damage and offer to pay something.

Strictlymad · 15/04/2025 19:56

Can you speak to the dh? He might be horrified at the behaviour of his wife and daughter

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