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New thread- Told DP I was upset by SKs' behaviours

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innersilentscreams · 03/04/2025 05:55

I thought I'd make a new thread to let you know that I have stayed strong, am enjoying my peace (and cat).
I have to go to work very soon so I will post later this evening, but thank you all so much for your messages and support!

He has messaged to meet up but I have said no. His things are packed up and we have financial issues to sort like joint account and investments so blocking outright isn't doable yet. I am not worried for my safety.

Some lovely colleagues at work have been helpful- especially one who has been in a very similar situation in the past, who said it doesn't get better, only worse.

He's messaged the typical misses me, can't believe how things are text now, but no apology. When I told him the way I have been disrespected and then the way he spoke to me and left was shockingly undeserved, he ignored that and just kept asking me to meet him. I said no.

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:02

Loseitrr · 09/04/2025 21:43

I even said to him when he collected his stuff and told me he had told the kids I had a problem with their mess as I'm not a mum, 'what mother in her right mind, who has kids she has taught manners to, is going to put up with their lounge being used as a rubbish dump and video gaming emporium by someone else's kids?'

excellent response. This is the same excuse I’ve seen some parents use when berating or moaning about some teachers (who didn’t have kids) for raising issues about their poorly behaved kids. They would pull the “you /they don’t understand , because they don’t have their own kids” 😒 it’s petulant, pathetic and an obvious attempt to deflect from the issue of their terrible parenting.

It sounds like from your update the kids as horribly behaved as they are have had a lot of upheaval and they sadly haven’t got parents who put them first. They’re probably acting out and (wrongly) taking out their frustrations on you. I don’t date men with kids for this reason, as much sympathy as I have for these kids I won’t be anyone’s emotional punchbag!

When I was teacher training we had a nun on the staff who’d taught me. Fearsome woman. Terrifying.
Then I realised it was just a persona to exert authority. She was actually a sweetheart.
Every morning break she’d do the same routine. Open the staff room doors and shout this at the top of her lungs…
’I fecking hate kids! Remind me not to have any!’
She was quite the character 😂

Takenoprisoner · 10/04/2025 17:05

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:02

When I was teacher training we had a nun on the staff who’d taught me. Fearsome woman. Terrifying.
Then I realised it was just a persona to exert authority. She was actually a sweetheart.
Every morning break she’d do the same routine. Open the staff room doors and shout this at the top of her lungs…
’I fecking hate kids! Remind me not to have any!’
She was quite the character 😂

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😅😂😂 she sounds like Mrs Trunchbull

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:26

Takenoprisoner · 10/04/2025 17:05

😅😂😂 she sounds like Mrs Trunchbull

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She was brilliant. I was terrified of her as a student. First day as a ‘teacher’ I walked in and she had her feet up on a table reading the Daily Mirror.
She’s still alive as well she is close to 100 now.

Loseitrr · 10/04/2025 18:07

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/04/2025 17:02

When I was teacher training we had a nun on the staff who’d taught me. Fearsome woman. Terrifying.
Then I realised it was just a persona to exert authority. She was actually a sweetheart.
Every morning break she’d do the same routine. Open the staff room doors and shout this at the top of her lungs…
’I fecking hate kids! Remind me not to have any!’
She was quite the character 😂

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She sounds hilarious and a formidable character!

fieldofstars · 10/04/2025 23:14

video gaming emporium

That is top notch!

RareGoalsVerge · 11/04/2025 00:06

Well done for staying strong. Once all his shit is removed from your home and all the financial issues are untangled, your next challenge will be to learn how to not think about him ever again. He doesn't deserve your brainspace.

Fraaances · 19/04/2025 01:16

Just so you know, in the Netherlands they call kids like this Snotaapjes. (Snot Monkeys.) Please don’t think that I believe you owe any of these people any of your time or resources, but I kind of feel that you and their poor grandparents were their only hope of seeing civilized adult behaviour modeled. Your ex will find another vulnerable victim to inflict his offspring onto.
Meanwhile, you would probably benefit from the Freedom Program.

TokyoKyoto · 25/04/2025 11:30

@innersilentscreams How are things now? I hope you're feeling a bit better

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