To think that parents who don’t control their kids in public deserve public shaming?

[MyEdgyAmberZebra]

If your child is throwing a screaming tantrum in a restaurant, I shouldn’t have to “be understanding” - I should be able to tell you to sort it out.

Why do you think you’re so special that you never have to put up with any inconveniences whatsoever?

Disruption and noise in a nice restaurant is more than "inconvenience." Why do parents think they get to ruin others' outings?

Ten years? If they can't produce a well-behaved child by the time it's five years old, they shouldn't become parents.

Most parents don’t. It’s disingenuous to claim that parents don’t care. The vast majority do and are doing their best. You must be exceptionally unlucky to encounter so many disruptive children in your fancy restaurants. I rarely do. I come across more boorish and disruptive adults.

i thought the real issue of this thread was the minority of parents who really don’t care what’s happening with their kids and abdicate any responsibility. In which case, the answer isn’t public shaming. But you crack on if that’s what compels you.

Shouldn’t they? Oh dear. Does the hospital accept returns?

im sure you equally frown upon kids on screens out in public as well. I think the solution might be mind your own business and try to enjoy the company you’re with.

I eat out a lot and I have never been in a restaurant where a child is having a screaming tantrum that the parents don’t swiftly sort out.

You need to go to ‘well behaved children welcome’ places, rather than ‘family friendly’. You aren’t choosing your restaurants wisely.

Put them in the stocks on a Friday evening and pelt them with rotten veg.

That'd sort out the problem quick.

🤣👌

So no one who lacks the physical ability to restrain and carry their toddler should ever go out in public?

Correct.
Or take someone along, or have someone watch the kid at home.

It's wrong to let kids run wild, at the expense of others, no matter what the excuse.

"...total abdication of responsibility..."

Oh God yes. So common nowadays.

Lots of posters here seem to be supporting it though...

It's hard to mind one's own business with 90-decibel shrieks in one's ear, and kids racing around a restaurant as though it's an obstacle course.

Some people have such incredibly low standards.

There's a difference between 'running wild' and having a tantrum no?

So nobody who is disabled can ever take their kid out without a carer? Not sure that's going to help their kids socialisation and behaviour

You can tell them to sort it out, what’s to stop you?

I think there's a spectrum and there is a lot of negative sentiment towards children in public in Britain and a lower tolerance for children being children - they are not creatures of reason and can have tantrums unpredictability

Of course kids shouldn't be left to run amok but some tolerance would be kind when the vast majority of parents will already be mortified and worried about being judged

If a parent makes an effort to get their child to be quiet and behave, I will be understanding and sympathetic. If they don't, I will be not.

The last time my child did this a lovely older woman came over and reassured me that no one minded, that we’d all been there (as I was trying in vein to calm her down). I like that energy, it’s kind and understanding through circumstances which are ultimately out of my control. It was also an uncommon enough occurrence that dd stopped immediately to see what this stranger was saying to mummy. Women supporting women 💪

@Stagshearthanks for sharing your opinion. Tantrums are biologically normal, that should be noted. Are you on TikTok by any chance? “Anti-child” sentiment is kind of trending over there so I guess you’re jumping on that?

No, I am not on TikTok. Telling though that you think that not allowing kids to run riot is some sort of bizarre trend…

Hit a nerve? Just parent your kids. Everyone wins.

Mine are older now but the toddler and baby years with my son were so horrific I simply ignore it if a small child is kicking off. Walked more than a mile in those shoes.

Not if it's in a restaurant /the cinema/ or any other public space where other people are trying to enjoy a treat.

My child (autistic) is about a foot taller than me now. Not so easy to bundle up 😅

I completely agree OP