Firstly she is not asking to see where the kids are sleeping so I am not concerned this is an issue I am facing - more that like another poster said, the kids will race around showing it all off (one of them has taken a liking to a big cupboard in a bathroom so I really do mean they will want to show every nook and cranny). They are excited, I do get it I asked DP to talk to them about sticking to the main areas and not every inch of the house as I think all the adults would find it weird and awkward. We haven’t hooked up our dryer yet so let’s add in all my pants hanging up drying to the mix yeah.
I can see that it might be an issue that other unsuspecting separated parents might have to face. I do understand there is a deep desire to ‘see where your kids are sleeping’ as so many people have said it as if it’s something completely normal 😂 but can we normalise that this isn’t particularly rational and you might come across as controlling to expect this under your ‘Mothers Rights’ and I can see why so many co parenting relationships are not very good if this is an expectation.
Ours is ok, we aren’t friends - I have nothing in common with their mum apart from DP. I’m cordial. I don’t know her very well. I am fine with it staying that way. I don’t know what it is, I just have zero desire to befriend her. The social awkwardness around her is probably the off putting thing plus I don’t think she’s very nice to my DP, so I don’t like being around that energy.
However I’m on great terms with my ex and his wife and I even have done childcare for them, I send them cards for special occasions, always get their child a gift on Xmas and birthdays, we are friends on social media. She’s lovely I like her, they have invited me in their house and vice versa. My ex MIL sent me a house warming card. I don’t think I am the twat around here 😂
I do not know how this would benefit your kids if it’s just about allaying your own ‘concerns’ to be expected viewing access inside your exes houses. Don’t be weird guys. If someone invites you in, then do your thing and be polite but this is one of the reasons why step mums/2nd wives can get such a bad rap around here because many of us have to put up with this kind of fucking weirdness. If you don’t pay our mortgage you don’t have any rights to come into our house just because you had children with one of the home owners.
DP will be managing this and I will trust that he will sort it so I don’t think I have much more to add to the thread now