I called him a f**king tramp. DH overheard and is now furious

[ionlysaidone1]

Aibu?

DHs older son is 14. He doesn't treat the house with any respect when he's here and I understand that can just be teens so I try so hard to bite my tongue.

But one thing I cannot stand is the state of the toilet whenever he's here. He will literally piss all over it, down the back of the toilet, sometimes it's on the floor etc..

I have tried REPEATEDLY to bring this up with DH who minimises completely saying it's not that bad, only takes two seconds to clean up, I'm exaggerating, it's not his son despite it only happening when he's here obviously.

I have taken to shouting DSS in every time I notice it and making him clean the toilet but it's still happening. He's revolting.

Anyway, tonight I came to use the bathroom after SS and lo and behold the seat is a mess again, piss in the back between the cistern and toilet seat. I was so annoyed that I just went WHAT A FUCKING TRAMP! And then shouted SS to get in there and clean it up.

SS didn't hear the tramp comment but DH did and now he's furious.

I've apologised for calling SS a tramp

but said I won't apologise for being angry at this happening AGAIN.

H thinks I've committed some cardinal sin calling his son a tramp but honestly, if the shoe fits! If he doesn't like it he should do more to get through to his son.

I'm so over this situation it's disgusting.

Why can’t you call him a tramp? If the shoe fits…

Your language is a disgrace. That needs to be cleaned up for a start.

it really isn't 'teenage boys'. 2yo boys, who are potty-training - undestandable. Teenagers who have been repeatedly told off, that's on purpose.

I've got a 12 year old who manages to pee in the toilet id be raging if I was having to deal with that regularly. Tell him from now on when he pees he's to sit down, so it doesn't go everywhere, if he's not capable of getting it in the toilet!

This is MN, and your SS gets to piss where he likes and you must martyr yourself.

Bin the husband and get a pet.

Flush them both out

And this is NOT teenage boys. Christ.

I'd say that teenage boys are gross

Thankfully I don't live with a man 🙌 so don't need to worry but this was an unfair reaction to a 14 year old

Shouting at your stepson is too far

It’s definitely not teenage boys get your DH in every single time to properly clean it. He will soon get fucked off too

YABU to yourself for putting up with it

Meh, the teen is lazy and dirty, the DH is a lazy parent with no standards, you think it’s ok to shout about your SS being ‘a fucking tramp’, you all sound fairly well matched. Make the DH clean up the pee as it’s his kid. Try not to shout and swear and name call like you are a teenager yourself.

My husband would be out the door if he called any of my children a fucking tramp. I can’t believe he’s putting up with you!

I have tried REPEATEDLY to bring this up with DH who minimises completely saying it's not that bad, only takes two seconds to clean up, I'm exaggerating, it's not his son despite it only happening when he's here obviously.

So, does he clean it up?

Your SS is behaving poorly, but the real issue here is your DH.

Oh boo hoo OP is such a martyr for being called out on abusive language.

I have two teenage sons, and neither wee on the toilet seat. I would not be happy if he couldn't be bothered to clean up after himself. His dad needs to have a sit down chat with him. Wee on the seat after the age of ten is just disrespectful.

Yes I literally don't know any man who behaves like this.

Well your SA didn’t hear the comment so he can’t be offended by it but I don’t think you were in the wrong anyway.

I’d snap if I was walking into such a filthy toilet all the time. It’s disgusting and disrespectful.

Calling him a tramp isn't worse than pissing on the floor every single fucking time!

I think you are being very restrained OP. Piss stinks and it's really hard to get rid of the smell as it sinks into wood and concrete and even Jeyes fluid won't get rid of that smell.

How can he still not be able to pee in the bog at 14? It must be a challenge/one upmanship sort of thing for him maybe?

But she did call him a fucking tramp, just not to his face.

If I called any of my DPs family fucking anything, or vice versa, we would be pissed off. It’s crossed a boundary.

agreed that the urine is disgusting and that OP should make DH clean it every time, but that language is abusive. She wouldn’t tolerate it if DH barked that out cos she left her hair in the shower plug hole again.

I've apologised for calling SS a tramp

There's your first mistake

If he can't pee standing up, he needs to sit down.

This is gross, a 14 year old should know better. I’d ask him to sit down when he pees and would also ask him to clean it up when he forgets/misses.

Mind blowing isn’t it?

That's what I would do.

You have your own bathroom and Wayne and Junior Wayne Slob share one.

Put a lock on your bathroom.

Me neither, my sons wouldnt dare treat their home and family so disrespectfully

Some people really will find any excuse to defend men and boys.