I called him a f**king tramp. DH overheard and is now furious

[ionlysaidone1]

Aibu?

DHs older son is 14. He doesn't treat the house with any respect when he's here and I understand that can just be teens so I try so hard to bite my tongue.

But one thing I cannot stand is the state of the toilet whenever he's here. He will literally piss all over it, down the back of the toilet, sometimes it's on the floor etc..

I have tried REPEATEDLY to bring this up with DH who minimises completely saying it's not that bad, only takes two seconds to clean up, I'm exaggerating, it's not his son despite it only happening when he's here obviously.

I have taken to shouting DSS in every time I notice it and making him clean the toilet but it's still happening. He's revolting.

Anyway, tonight I came to use the bathroom after SS and lo and behold the seat is a mess again, piss in the back between the cistern and toilet seat. I was so annoyed that I just went WHAT A FUCKING TRAMP! And then shouted SS to get in there and clean it up.

SS didn't hear the tramp comment but DH did and now he's furious.

I've apologised for calling SS a tramp

but said I won't apologise for being angry at this happening AGAIN.

H thinks I've committed some cardinal sin calling his son a tramp but honestly, if the shoe fits! If he doesn't like it he should do more to get through to his son.

I'm so over this situation it's disgusting.

Bollocks. Circumcision is genital mutilation, and should be banned.

Same here.

your husband is deflecting back to you because he knows both of them are lazy, entitled twats.

It is not anti-semitic or islamophobic to have the opinion that removing foreskin without permission from babies is unnecessary mutiliation that should be stopped even if it is done for cultural and / or religious purposes. Both culture and religion have evolved over time to remove barbaric practices from their "norms". Why can't circumcision also become one of these, at least until the child become an adult? At which point, if he chose to, he could have the procedure willingly.

Sorry but I laughed so hard at this

No they really wouldn't...

Its abusive to continually subject others in the home to dirty, lazy/rude behavior and be expected to "deal with it". Unless this 14yo has true medical/emotional diagnosis there is zero reason to be acting out weeing everywhere. He's 14 not 4

Zombie 🧟

Honestly? I applaud you. Far too many men are brought up not to check and clean up after themselves. They need to understand that it’s repulsive and extremely disrespectful- you wouldn’t lose it and shout disrespectful things about him if he showed some!