First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

You’re being ridiculous!! Enjoy your little one.

Any twat can post on SM, its meaningless
What matters is what he did IRL

You had a lovely Mother's Day. Ask yourself why you feel the need to have it acknowledged on social media - what are you trying to prove? If you need that kind of external validation, you need to work on yourself. Be grateful for what you have and quash the need for approval and admiration on social media.

Congratulations, you clearly have a husband with class.

I had SIX separate, equally long, gushing posts pop up my FB page yesterday, all from the same woman.

One for acknowledging herself as a mum, another for her mum, one for her mil, another for her sil... then one "for all the mums" and finally one "for anyone who might be finding today hard"

Christ knows when she had time to do anything or be with her actual kids in between the six essays.

Before anyone says anything, I only use FB for the local pages and a few other bits, I don't have anything else like Twitter, Insta etc.

I was a teenager when SM kicked off. My age group have seen it go from zero to the beast it is today.

I have friends who post everything. I have friends who post nothing. You don't have to buy into it. Just live your life. Post if you feel like it, don't if you don't. It genuinely makes no difference to the majority of people lives if something isn't online.

They’d be so happy with the constant SM bragging posts 🥰

Social media isn’t used to ‘mark occasions’ as you put it OP, it’s used by people to mostly boast and brag about how much they have, how amazing they want everyone to think their lives are, how much their partner adores them and to generally just show off. By the sounds of it, seldom do your type of people post anything that’s not in some way showy.

What with this and the birthday post last week, I feel sad that people are so shallow to get upset about a missing social media presence on days like Mother’s Day.

Is this you, Amanda? 😊

Oh my god I remember that 😂

Utterly crazy, and how sad to live your life through a fantasy world.

But it is NOT massive for people your age. This is a YOU thing.

This is tragic. But also hilarious. Peak tragicomedy content. Well done, OP!

YANBU. People your age do post everything on social media so it's natural to then compare yourself with other friends. Other peoples' partners/husbands have written long (largely meaningless!) devotions to their wife/partners so it's just normal to compare yourself. However yours bought you chocolates, flowers and took you for a meal so it sounds like he loves and cares about you and maybe just felt a bit cringey about writing a personal devotion on a public page?

Oh god are you the same cringey person who wanted their DH to post on social media about your birthday?
I can’t believe people actually give a shit about social media beyond the age of 18!

I’m presuming you were born in 1998? I thought most of your generation had ditched Facebook, and only post occasional holiday photo albums on private Instagrams? Among the mid-to-late twenty somethings I know, the sort of gushing posts you’re describing are considered terribly gauche and cringey…

Do all people OPs age post everything on socials? Do we know her age?

If we're assuming the 98 is a reference to her year of birth, actually, many 27 (ish) year olds don't bother with socials at all anymore. They're starting to recognise the harm they do (demonstrated here where a lovely day in real life is spoiled because of no SM bragging) and are moving away.

I will never understand the younger generation’s obsession with social media.

Try getting rid of socials....much better way of life. People gloating and making out their lives are better than everyone else's. Not for me. I think YABU it's purely so everyone else can see it...not for you is it?

Of course it’s not you silly so and so. He should be leaving you for being such a prat! Surely if you are enjoying your day you won’t even need to go anywhere near social media.

Really OP, with regard to “socials” (sounds like a joke actually saying it out loud), don’t let it rule your life mate. 😂

Oh come on, if you're not in OP's age-group then your/my views on the appropriateness of social media are really irrelevant. I've been trying to think of something that would have been the equivalent of public approbation to the volume and extent that social media occupies today - and I can't think of anything that compares.

Not being 'in fashion'? It was a 'terrible' thing for many but, without the worldwide audience it really didn't impact being our own friendship circles.

Social media is a beast that's been fed and is now bigger than the ability to control it is. It must be awful to be enmeshed in a never-ending cycle of post - photo - get likes, rinse and repeat. I would think that if you're on that treadmill then it's either keep up or be pretty much 'cancelled' out of existence.

For that reason, I've changed my vote to YANBU OP because you can't do anything other than what you are, the tide is too strong. I hope that social media will implode on day soon but till then, plod along as best you can.

Ffs not another grown adult whinging about their OHs not broadcasting their feelings on “the socials”. Grow up!!

I’ve never communicated with my partner via SM and I cringe whenever my friends do it
what he says to your face is important

one of myfriends posts gushy shite all the time about her husband , her sil tells me their relationship has been in trouble lots over the years , so basically a load of fake nonsense

real life matters , not SM !

I’m sorry op but this is pathetic. Seriously, who really gives a flying fick?!

Firstly, we don't know her age group.

Secondly, being a different age gives different perspectives which may help OP.

Thirdly, my DH and I are probably considered different "age groups" given he's 9 years older than me. We have the same thoughts on SM.

Not everyone of a certain age feels the same as everyone else that age. Therefore no ages opinion is irrelevant.

I always say ‘socials’ in my head like Daisy from Coronation Street as she’s the only other character I’ve ever heard use the term.

’Ooh me soshuls need updating, Ryan’. Bless her.