First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

So why does he have to put it out on social media?

You could have done a brag post and mentioned all that in it yourself.

Not everyone wants their life put out on social media.

I hope this is a wind up

That makes me think of Gavin & Stacey's Dawn & Pete Sutcliffe!

Honestly, you need to adjust your priorities!

Seriously, you got more in the way of personal things like a card, flowers, chocolate, as well as a meal out, which is far more than most get. Try and be grateful for the effort he's put into those.

I'm sorry to hear that 😢

The Harvester bit, I mean.

My DH and I don't really post on social media. I liked some posts I saw yesterday of friends and neighbours posting about their wives and it didn't occur to me to not do that or to be jealous or annoyed my DH didn't post about us. I actually like that neither of us feels the need to do that as we were actually enjoying our day together and he got me a nice card and gifts from the DC. Surely that's what counts or even how he treats you generally not just what he posts on Instagram or Facebook?!

I often wonder what would happen if the internet disappeared tomorrow. We would be left with a huge population of people who would literally fall apart at the lack of attention they are no longer receiving.

I am old enough to remember a youth without internet and I can honestly say that the majority of people I know who have grown up with it and the vast majority on here are absolute saps with minimal skills in resilience or confidence.

As long as you know you are appreciated, you shouldn't care who else knows it.

How on earth did the world function and peiple feel special before social media 🙄

I think messages like that on social media are nothing more than virtue signalling. Telling other people what a great person they are for saying nice things about you. When actually he could just talk to you and show you that himself.
I am.always very suspicious of such messages.
If I have someone's phone number I would send them a personal message for birthday etc never on social media.
Why do you need him to declare to the world how wonderful you are?
I also think mother's day is ridiculously hyped up now but that's a different conversation

So your DH organised gifts and took you out for lunch and you are complaining he didn't post anything on social media.

YABU and very ungrateful.

She did. Said she put everything in her stories. But wanted her dh to publicly declare what a great mum she is on his SM as well. If it's not on sm it didn't happen 🙄

You are being utterly ridiculous and childish.

My first thought when I saw thread title!

If that's how social media makes you feel and react, I suggest deleting it.

Having read the first few replies from the OP, I am absolutely convinced this thread is a wind-up

Get over yourself. ‘Socials’ are cringe as fuck for stuff like this.

Ah...my bad..on this one.

Really couldn't get past her OP so didn't read on.

OP is taking some unnecessary criticism here, I think. This kind of thing is clearly important to her, and you would imagine she has told her partner this (well I hope she did anyway, otherwise this post doesn't apply!)

Spending time and attention on things that aren't important to you but are to your partner is a vital part of making a relationship work. I don't see why her partner couldn't have just made a post - he'd probably then find that OP would be more likely to make an effort with things that are important to him and not to her.

@Genie98
maybe like me he’s aware that many people on your ‘socials’ will be struggling on Mother’s Day due to infertility, bereavement etc
Honestly can’t believe this is worthy of you complaining on here? Why does he need to share something private online? Weird

I think these Mother's Day threads could form a thesis on why social media is bad for you (including Mumsnet).

Surely this real life stuff is more important to you than a social media post? I’d be glad my DH actually cared about me rather than just making a show of caring for me for other people’s benefit.

Best way to snap out of it is to come off socials. You're not seeing the real nitty gritty of people's relationships on there, just their highlight reel, and although it is silly to compare them to yourself, it is human; socials are just the wrong venue for it. Comparison is the thief of joy!

Putting some like that on social media is a bit pathetic. Why do you need everyone to know what you got? Is it to make others feel as you bad you feel by your dh not posting?

If he's generally loving and caring I think you do need to get over it yes.