First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

I think it’s more that Genie has reinvented herself as Fartsock with a username change perhaps…. Or Fartsock has the same idea of fun as Genie and is having us all on. 😂

But you can't manage without shallow, social media validation, @Genie98? Do you think that is a good trait to have?

If nothing else gets through to you - think about this. If you carry on behaving like this, your children will see that you value social media validation over actual, thoughtful actions, and they could easily grow up to believe that they MUST be popular on SM, and that SM is the most important thing - which I think would be a really bad lesson for them to learn, and would damage their self esteem and mental health.

You, as a parent, need to be modelling a healthy relationship with social media, and whingeing at your partner because, despite all they did do, there was no gushing SM post, is NOT a healthy relationship with SM.

Oooh, there's also an engagement ring disappointment thread banging on about standards from 'our men'

😂

Oh God not another one!

Not too sure why she's with this man if she doesn't like his "standards".

But she’s married with a kid apparently but also only been dating for 6 months.

Maybe someone needs to tell her 3 separate fellas all to up their standards and get posting attention seeking pre approved bullshit on Facebook

🤣🤣
Too true bsaptimdaenr 👌😂

Funnily enough, one of my friends messaged me earlier and asked if everything is okay with DH as she didn’t see anything from him on Sunday - so that backs up my earlier comments.

😂😂😂

Did she aye?

Your friend thinks there's something wrong because your husband didn't write a 'socials' post about you?

Really?

I mean, I'm pretty active on 'socials' because of my job, but a) I wouldn't notice and b) certainly wouldn't even think to ask someone if I didn't see some pointless gushy post on mothers day.

I think you and your friends probably need to grow up.

Course she did. She went through your husband's socials to see whether she needed to check on the state of your relationship.

Most friends of a couple with a new child, if the even noticed there was no post, would assume you were both exhausted from being new parents. Not messaged to see whether you'd divorced because there was no social media post.

My DH didn’t post anything about me or his Mum. I didnt post anything about my Mum
or anything

gosh what an uncaring devil

You just don’t get it do you? I really feel sorry for your husband.

Just like she did on your birthday thread

Definitely backs up that either A - it’s all made up or B / your friends are also shallower than a puddle

I know which I’d bet my money on

i hate social media. It’s total bullshit and has a lot
to answer for

You know what they say about birds of a feather, OP?

Your friend also needs to get offline and live her life in the real world.

Course she did 🤣

My DH has never posted about me like that in the 17 years we've been parents and I'd cringe if he did! That's stuff you do privately, together as a family.

Please tell me you are 25 or younger?

Seems for some shallow vacuous types, nothing is private. They can’t take a shit without telling Instagram

No - it just means your friend is shallow and thinks SM fluff matters more than actual, real life, actions. Not an admirable trait, imo, @Genie98.

I'm 30 so of the social media generation and can confirm this issue is NOT generational.

You said that last time too, hun xx

Aye! Right!! 😂

You really aren’t.