First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

Sounds like a mantra she says in the mirror on a morning. Or maybe into her phone with a ring light behind her?

Chinny reckon

Sure 😂

Your friend has too much time on her hands! Birds of a feather flock together clearly.

Only for the similarly vacuous.

I CBA to read over 500 posts, but OP. Seriously give your head a wobble, look at yourself and realise, its not about you.

get a fucking grip. Millions have become mothers before the socials tripe and managed the day without being pissed off with our husbands.

It’s been a good debate - a mix of views and perspectives.

Which thread were you reading?

98% of posters said it was ridiculous to be annoyed that you only got real life attention and not fake socials.

You said it wasn't.

Like attracts like*, as they say.

*Not "like" in the social media sense, to be clear.

Yet 98% say you are unreasonable

Yeah - 99% of vote saying you are unreasonable sounds like "a mix of views".

No. Almost everyone told you that you were being unreasonable, shallow and vacuous.

I'm not sure which thread you were reading.

If you look beyond the voting and actually read the thread back you’ll see there has been a range of views - many supportive (those closer to myself in age, mainly), many not (those of more advancing years, mainly). That’s the beauty of debate.

I respect all perspectives, and I acknowledge it’s very much a 2025 problem!

I don't know exactly what age you are, but, as you have a baby, I'm going to guess 20s or 30s.

I know a LOT of people in their 20s (and quite a few in their 30s).
You forgot the word some from this sentence

it’s massive for people my age and rightly or wrongly, people use it to mark occasions

Some people is what you mean.

None of the 20 - 40 aged people I am close to would have a strop if their partner did something lovely for them on a day that was important to them, but didn't post about it on SM.
Plenty of people would consciously not post on SM when they are spending the time with that person.

Are you sure you aren’t the poster who complained that her partner didn’t post birthday messages on “ socials”??

Jealous of your mum friends? Of what? Grow the fuck up! Social media ISN'T everything!

@CarpetKnees agree. I also notice the happier and more content one is in real life, the less they post. Friends who are going through rough patches in their relationships or are insecure tend to need the external validation of social media more.

I have read the majority.

Lots of people probably within a decade either side of you in ages have said they wouldn't expect this of a partner.

Younger people have said it's cringe. Older people have said that they only see this from older people.

Many people have said that socials are fake and you should look beyond them.

Maybe you need to read them properly to really take in what has really been said, and by whom.

Entitled you sound!!

Many supportive? Really?

I’m struggling to find this many you speak of…

One of my DC is of your era

They would think all of this is utter nonsense

So it isn't obligatory

But it is shallow and ungrateful

The expectations are over the top and the whole bloody thing is crazy.

You say all.your friends got comments, thousands of mothers also didn't or wouldn't have.
It's crazy and over the top.

Apparently not

Which means there's at least two of them...

Sounds like you only read or hear what suits you as most of us find you decidedly odd! There is an overwhelming consensus that you just don’t get.

It’s a 2025 problem for YOU OP. I couldn’t give a flying fuck.

Can someone link the birthday thread please, I’m intrigued to have a read 😂