First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

NOBODY WOULD HAVE CARED! They probably wouldn't even have noticed!

This is just nuts.

🤭I bet she is!

You are being utterly ridiculous.

Please, for the love of all that is holy, do NOT do this, @Genie98!

You already sound shallow and ungrateful - if you whinge at him because, despite the things he did do, he failed to give you the social media validation you think is so important, you will look like a petulant child.

Think about this - which one involves actual effort - buying flowers, chocolates and a card, plus taking you out for a roast, or posting on SM? And what is more valuable - actual time and effort devoted to making sure you had a good day, or a social media post?

Please try to be grateful for what he did, and stop thinking that the candy floss world of social media means more than real life.

I don’t think they were. They probably assumed you were actually having a nice day together. That’s if you factored into their thinking at all, which you probably didn’t. This is the other thing about social media, it makes you think people are interested in this mundane stuff and they just aren’t. Honestly who would have sat there and thought “Genie must be a really bad mum because MrGenie hasn’t made a post about she’s the most perfect mummy to BabyGenie. He should really leave her, she must be terrible. Poor BabyGenie”

If there are genuinely people in your life who would think that, trust me when I say your life would be immeasurably better if you get those people out of your life.

Maybe you live in a bubble where everyone you know thinks it’s important, but there is a big world out there of people who don’t.

I don’t know what your age is but I can tell you that my DC and friends, all in their 20s, wouldn't be seen dead making cringy posts like that on their "socials" and laugh (not in a good way) at people who do.

People would have been a bit surprised not to have seen anything?! Are you serious??😂

Are you the Queen? Have you a Royal Family account, that sycophants wonder about? Bloody hell

You say that, but in the past when I’ve put posts up for DH’s birthday etc, picking the right selection of photos etc actually takes longer than buying some of the presents and card etc! Which I know sounds mad, also getting the caption right and making sure it’s heartfelt but not OTT.

Like I said before, I wish I was from another era sometimes!

I posted a bit about my birthday yesterday on facebook, but honestly, me and my mum's time is private, I don't like taking lots of pictures of us together and sharing it.

I’d cringe if my h posted on social media about Mother’s Day.

This has to be a fake post surely? At first I was thinking ok fair enough, but now I’m thinking this is a wind up…

This is absolutely, definitively the same poster who did the birthday thread the other week. The 'thanks for the variety of opinions' post, when 99% of responses are YABU, is even identical to the last thread.

Nice one OP, you got us all frothing again. Can you switch it up a bit next time, though?

fuck me I spend too much time on here

My gosh, this sounds exhausting. It's really not.required even for a young person.

I wish I saw the post in question, but I can assure you it wasn’t me!

Is this post for real?!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

That’s so beyond sad also you don’t need to be from a different era to stop being ridiculous. We’re not far off in age if your username is your dob, not everyone your age uses social media or if they are they’re not as obsessed as you, you can just come off it.

Well in that case there are two of you not living in the real world but in an online bubble

In that thread too there were lots of young people saying that putting something online just for the likes is ridiculous so it’s not just an older person’s view

I got rid of social media! The people that shout the loudest about how wonderful everything is are usually some of the unhappiest. I kept in touch with the people that actually mattered. I live in the moment and for myself and I’m so much happier. I’m not saying you should totally delete your socials, but maybe think about why you’re needed validation from people online?! Your husband sounds like he made an effort and didn’t need to do it virtually as well.

So your husband doesn't even know that this is something you wanted?

OP I think you need to come off social media altogether. A first mother's day is special but not because it's been put on social media.

Comments that people would be surprised not to see photos of your day on social media are totally bonkers.

You say that, but in the past when I’ve put posts up for DH’s birthday etc, picking the right selection of photos etc actually takes longer than buying some of the presents and card etc! Which I know sounds mad, also getting the caption right and making sure it’s heartfelt but not OTT.

You haven't said how HE feels about that.

I have a relative who does all this for her husband. In the photos of whatever the latest #MakingMemories themed extravaganza she's forced him to star in, he invariably looks like he's stepped on an upturned plug in his bare feet. And he openly voices how cringey he finds all these posts. But she rides roughshod over any objections.

If you wish you were from another era then behave like that era.

Just do what makes you happy instead of thinking you have to conform to the "era". I'm your era. We do not care about socials.

Nobody will give a shit.

It is defo the same poster. So tragic. Get a life is my advice.

I would stake my house on the fact no one noticed this. Even if, as you say, it's a huge thing for people your age, they won't notice.

Because the entire point about social media is it makes people incredibly narcissistic and self-centred so they will only notice how many people have or haven't liked their own posts. They won't give a tinker's cuss about yours.

I really wouldn't tell your husband this. If he's anything like most of the posters on this thread he will think you are shallow and ungrateful.