To expect DH to wake up when the kids do?!

[Mumof3Chaos]

Honestly, I am FUMING this morning. Every single day, without fail, the kids wake up at the crack of dawn (thanks to the flipping clock change making it even worse), and every single day DH just magically doesn’t hear them. I swear the man could sleep through a fire alarm.

So there I am, dealing with 3yo screaming because she wanted the blue cup (which is in the dishwasher, obvs), 7yo crying cos he can’t find his school tie, and 10yo shouting down that she’s got no clean PE socks (despite me washing a million pairs last week). Meanwhile, DH is just lying there, breathing deeply, pretending he’s in a coma or something.

I banged around a bit in the kitchen, “accidentally” dropped a spoon, even opened the curtains in the bedroom when I went back up, and NOTHING. He just strolled downstairs at 7:50 looking all bleary-eyed, stretching like he’s had the best sleep of his life, and went “Oh, are they up already?” LIKE NO, I’M JUST RUNNING A NOISE EXPERIMENT.

AIBU to expect him to get up and help instead of playing dead every morning?! Cos I swear if he does it again tomorrow I might just ‘forget’ to make him a cup of tea for the rest of the year.

The breadwinner doesn't "call the shots", they bring home the family money.

If you work 9-5 then in those hours you do your job. The stay at home parent, between the same hours, does their job. 5pm-9am, childcare is both parents job.

And in our family, we both earn, we both bring home money, we both parent. It's the fair thing (and the normal thing).

just go in and say “ wake up , get out of bed and start parenting”

I’ve done it , all men do the sleep thing because “ oh all men do that “ and it seems to now have become the acceptable norm because “ he’s a man “

i did it to a few months ago when he fell asleep on the sofa went in and shouted get up and sort your child out whilst in doing 101 things”

communication is key 🤣☺️🙏

Who calls the shots if they both work?

Of course I value what he does! Only it can't be compared to what I do, impossible. Silly even. And yes, she who pays the piper, etc. etc.

As someone with a pretty demanding job who also spends two days at home looking after our three year old....yes, it can be compared. It is 1000x easier to do my job than it is to look after a child on my days "off", especially when she's in one of "those" moods.

We have some days where we're both really chilled and enjoy every second. We have others where it is ridiculously stressful. So if all the child and home responsibilities were just on me, theres so much that wouldn't get done. I think I would burn out if I stayed home full time, especially if my husband thought about it like you do.

Your attitude to stay at home parents is appalling.

This is just great! I feed them, pay for them, and my attitude is appalling. Indeed black is white and white is black and the world has gone mad.

Good for you, you do the bare minimum of feeding and paying for children you chose to have.

That doesn't make your attitude towards stay at home parents any less appalling. You think that keeping your children safe and healthy all day every day is not comparable to you going to the office and being given money...

hilarious 🤣🤣🤣