Friend posting things to my parents house

[HattenO]

Hi all. I'm British but we now live in north of France (my DP is french).

I have a friend here who is Canadian but also lives here in France. She is aware we are going over to the UK to visit and stay with my parents over Easter. She asked me a couple of weeks ago if she could order something online from the UK which can only be delivered to a UK address and if she could get it posted to my parents house and I could collect it for her when we are all over at easter. No worries I said, I'll let my parents know and I'm sure that's fine. I gave her the address to use.

She replied later that day to say thank you and she had ordered 3 things which would be delivered separately. Okay that fine I said (although she hadn't told me it was 3 things beforehand). My parents let me know when each of the packages had been delivered - then messaged me to day a 4th had come.Before I got round to messaging my friend about this - she messaged me saying I hope you don't mind but I ordered just one more thing. I said yes I know it's already arrived you have all 4 things at my parents already. Today my dad messaged me to inform me that yesterday a 5th parcel arrived for her and today a 6th parcel. I knew absolutely nothing about it. My dad is pretty unhappy. He feels like his house is being used as a parcel delivery Depot for someone he doesn't even know so now he's narky with me.

How unreasonable am I being to be feeling bloody annoyed with this friend and how would you handle it. Truth be told I'm not very good at asserting myself in situations like this and I don't want to be impolite.

Thanks in advance

Do you know what’s in all these packages? Has you Dad sent you a photo of them?
I think your friend has a nerve and is abusing you kind nature.

Bring back the first three and return the rest to sender. Then never speak to her again. WTF

@HattenO ! We want a live opening thread once you get to your parents

They don’t all have to fit in your luggage. Any that don’t can and should be left behind. She’s absolutely taking the piss, the CF!

You should also ask your friend what's in the packages as you don't want to be arrested at customs if they're found dodgy. In fact I'd be telling my friend I will be opening everything to check it myself and not bring anything dodgy through customs. You need to protect yourself and your family.

In fact I'd be telling my friend I will be opening everything to check it myself and not bring anything dodgy through customs.

Absolutely right to check it - but the main reason why airlines are keen are asking at check-in if you are carrying something for somebody else has nothing to do with customs or smuggling..

Here’s the why:

https://tsi-mag.com/ann-marie-murphy-hindawi-affair-30th-anniversary-review/

https://www.nytimes.com/1972/08/18/archives/women-duped-into-taking-bomb-to-their-el-al-flight-women-are-dupes.html

That would irritate anyone I'm sure. Plus how big are the packets? Even if you drive over and back you'll have your own things to take etc.
My dad lives in france and whenever we go we get given things to take and it can take up a decent space each time:(

That would annoy me so much, she's really taking advantage. Are you going to be able to fit it all in you luggage? If you haven't messaged her yet do so asap and tell her you'll not get able to fit this all in your luggage so she will have to pick

CF of the highest order!

The fact that you will have to fly these back makes this beyond cheeky! Airlines are becoming increasingly strict about luggage allowance. The excess luggage fee is a fortune.

I would inform her that you won't be taking any packages home for her. She has abused your- and your parents' kindness. I would send all these packages back asap. I would also tell her to cancel this 7th package.

If she ends the friendship over this, so much the better. Let the trash take itself out.

Omg she’s been so rude!
depending on size of items I would tell her to make her own arrangements for posting them on and tell parents to refuse any more parcels!

I think you and your friend were both taking the piss. You didn't ask your parents before saying yes to your friend. You said yes and then told your parents afterwards. Cheek, the pair of you.

The friend is Canadian and probably hadn't even visited the UK and more unlikely to so in the future.

I think you need to nip this in the bud allowing it to continue is not good for either of you
she is taking the piss but you are enabling the situation!

She is taking the piss but you are enabling the situation

This.

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This!!

That is really rude definitely say something. And tell your dad not to accept anymore parcels!

In your message you need to clearly state I never said absolutely any amount of deliveries would be fine- I have no idea if I can even fit them into my luggage or will have to leave them there, which will seriously annoy my parents. They are already annoyed and aren’t going to accept any more deliveries. You may have to book a flight asap yourself before they bin all the extra.

Did you say something, OP?

Bloody hell! If you were driving it would be less of an issue but if you're flying that's really not on.

What are all these things that can only be delivered to the UK? I'm calling bullshit on that one. They'll just be cheaper in the UK.

I live in France and quite often buy things in the UK and have them delivered to my parents' house, but they're my parents and I'm usually bringing the stuff back in my own car after my next visit. I'd never dream of involving anyone else in my complex shopping arrangements. The list of things you genuinely can't buy in France is very short.

I assumed you were driving! I would tell her that she is taking the piss and that it is unlikely you will be able to bring everything back as you actually need your luggage allowance so you don’t understand why she has done this. Tell your parents not to accept any more parcels for her too. What a CF.

How large are the packages?
And it’s not just excess baggage but possibly customs duty. There’s a reason those things can’t be delivered to your home country. Unless she’s just trying to minimise delivery costs. Which you should charge for the hassle. Tell her to get your parents a bottle of whisky ( or whatever) for their trouble.