I need your perspective about this as I really can’t tell if I am being completely unreasonable and too demanding.
I know sometimes on MN we see that some believe birthdays are for children, but in our family we do celebrate them with a lot of effort and time for both adults and children.
I had a milestone birthday a few weeks ago. I had asked my dh to plan something as I was dreading it. I don’t have any family except for one long distance aunt. I find birthdays hard because it emphasises the feelings I have about being alone, and also because I had some really miserable birthdays in the past.
I had said to dh how I felt for the last few months. He knew it was going to be a difficult day, fast forward to the day and it became apparent that nothing beyond some presents and cards was arranged. I had a cake in the evening and that’s it. My dd gave me a present in a Tesco shopping bag not even wrapped and many of my friends forgot (although some did remember) and it felt like a wash out. We had lunch on a farm, booked last minute in the end.
I organised a weekend spa day with some girl friends for the weekend after which was nice.
I just feel so let down. I spent most of the day crying, and have felt quite depressed since.
Am I expecting too much for one of my family to organise something for me on the day? It was my 40th. Maybe I am being too demanding?
Thanks