Not to take husband to work everyday and pick him up

[robinsongs]

I have a 5 month old and two young children in early primary school years and mornings are pretty hectic as it is. Dh works a 10 minute drive away 20 minute walk and expects me to drive him there in the morning as I’m on maternity and pick him up when he finishes but he doesn’t have a finish time so he just texts when he’s finished, which is usually when I’m in the middle of cooking dinner or something and expects me to drop everything.
I put my foot down and said no as it’s disrupting 4 people in the morning as it’s 10 minutes each way and that’s 20 minutes cut off my morning and I have a baby to feed and then to get the others to school.

He isn’t one for taking no for an answer and has pushed and pushed and basically insisted telling the children they will be getting up earlier from now on to take daddy and I feel defeated as I have firmly said no and he’s just not accepting it because he’s decided I will.
AIBU or should I take him to work as I’m home all day and he’s working hard or should he respect my no and not push and push. He’s now asleep thinking he’s getting a lift in and picked up and I am awake feeling quite bitter that no matter how many times I made it clear I wouldn’t be taking him, it seems he’s just decided he’s getting his way and I am.
He can’t drive himself to work as there’s no parking nearby.

Seems batshit to add the stress of getting kids and a baby in the car for a 20 min walk.
20 minutes is not a long walk at all

Why, hello, Usain Bolt!

Adidas say 2.5-4 mph is average walking speed. Of course with pace being highly dependent on your age, fitness level, and the terrain you're walking on. According to the CDC, the average walking speed for adults is 2.5-4 mph. At 2.5 miles per hour, you can get through a mile in 24 minutes. You can walk a mile at 4 mph in 15 minutes.

So at the lower end of average at 2.5mph, a two mile walk would take 48 minutes.

But sincere congratulations on your 10 minute mile!!!! (Since you can cover two miles in 10 minute]

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And to add:

It takes 10 minutes to drive 5 miles at 30mph - do the math(s)!

I love how rather than focusing on the OP's dilemma you're here educating me when I don't give two shiny shits.

The man child could and should walk.
Bottom line.

Well - if you post nonsense, expect to be called out on it 🤷‍♀️

Nonsense lol he's a grown man who should walk the twenty minute journey.
He's not being considerate to or respecting the OP and still here you are calling me out on my nonsense 😆🥳😂
Wishing you lots of love and peace on this beautiful Monday morning 😘 ❤️ 🫶🏼
Have a good week 😁

The point is that there is no possible way that any human can walk a 10min drive in 20 minutes. That a 10min drive is likely to take at least an hour to walk.

The OP knows it’s definitely a 10min drive as she has done it many times and is resentful of how much it impacts on her day.

Is it reasonable for any working adult to have to take two hours of every work day walking to and from work because his/her spouse doesn’t like the inconvenience of giving up 20mins of her day when she isn’t even working any job and she is driving his car.

Exactly what I was saying earlier. It can’t be a 20min walk.

It's perfectly possible for some people, in some places. Sometimes there are pedestrianised roads / footpaths that mean a person can walk somewhere by a shorter route than a car would have to take. Sometimes in cities the traffic is so slow at rush hour that a person on foot can be almost as fast. I think we should take the OP at her word on the timings.

Why not? My 20 minute walk to work took my ndn 15/20 minutes to drive each day.

I take her at her word on the driving as she’s done it, but not the walking as no one has done it.

Cities with rush hour traffic usually mean a lot longer than a standard 10mins of driving. That’s when a half hour drive turns into an unpredictable one to two hour ordeal.

Stop having babies with this twat.

He is totally out of order and lazy. No way should you be dragging the kids out / getting up early to save him a 20 min walk!!! Ridiculous.

I don’t think @robinsongs is coming back

Those of you saying it’s impossible to have a 10 minute drive be a 20 minute walk have never driven in London (or Greater London) in rush hour.
I used to have a journey to work, which would indeed take 20 minutes to walk or 10 minutes to drive (sometimes longer!) as part of it was pedestrianised so a longer route in the car, plus LOTS of traffic. Once I realised how ridiculous it was to drive when the walk was so quick, I stopped and started walking and only drove in really bad weather.
Edited to add - it was about 1.5 miles.

She said he did it in the winter when she had a newborn. I think he would have noticed if it took an hour.

Very easy for a ten minute drive to only be a twenty minute walk - pedestrian shortcuts can cut out huge amounts of a journey, plus traffic lights and other cars all slow things down.

I don’t know why op doesn’t come back with a distance he needs to walk

as that will say if he is lazy or trying it on with the lift or actually is quite far /takes longer then 20m walk

Even if it’s 30 mins walk, it’s still not exactly impossible. How many thousands of school kids walk this every day?

Your husband is a selfish prick and needs a kick up the ass.
And I'm sorry to say, but you also need a spine. STOP GIVING IN! Every time you give in you dig your own grave even more. He knows if he just keeps harassing you you'll give in. Stop being such a doormat.

What about a hitman!!!?

So he can manage it, and over an extended period of time.

The insistence on a lift is nothing more than dick-swinging, to prove that as the man of the house he still has the most important needs.

You need to tell him tonight you won't be driving him tomorrow, mean it, and follow through. Get some bloody boundaries in place FFS. Your boundaries are your responsibility to hold.

What a selfish twonk he is.

Oh fgs. Tell him no and stick to it. Stop letting him grind you down and push you and your kids around.