To think it’s wrong to go on holiday without DC

[Pinkdreams]

I keep seeing on Facebook women going on holiday multiple times a year, leaving their young DC at home, this isn’t just one person it’s multiple, as a mother I couldn’t stand the thought of being in a different country to my child, what if something happened? Is it just me? Is this the norm?

Are you talking about time away with friends? Yes, it's the norm. I don't know any women who don't have long weekends away abroad ( at the very least ) with friends and I've always done it myself. My two ds's other parent isn't just there for decoration.

It's fine, we don't have to be joined at the hip

This year I'll be having one night away at a spa with maybe another one after a marathon to save me the 3 hour drive home.

My husband has suggested he might go somewhere with friends and we will both be going away for a long weekend without the kids.

We have a week's holiday booked all together, maybe 2 if it's practical.

Last year we only managed one night childfree and a week all all together although I had another night solo and my husband had a couple too.

The kids are not traumatised for life by us having a life without them.

I don't judge anyone for doing it as long as the children are safe and being looked after by someone who they know and who cares for them
Personally though I have always enjoyed taking my DC with me on holiday, still do even though they are 16 and 19

I am old, and have only met one woman who couldn’t face a holiday without her DS. She had thirteen MC trying to have him, so I could understand her position to some extent.

Everyone else does it regularly. Absolutely the norm. I mean, don’t bugger off to Lanzarote for a fortnight leaving your five year old home alone, but if there’s suitable childcare, what’s the problem?

Mine are adults now but I have always gone away with my mates or even, steady yourself, alone.

Being a mother doesn’t mean I’m no longer a person outside of that 🤨

Maybe you could do with a long weekend with no kids, on a beach with a cocktail OP? 👀👀

We’ve done it once, 3 glorious child free nights in Madrid. I can’t bloody wait to do it again! We’re currently making some noises about 5 child free nights in New York and I don’t feel an ounce of guilt.

EVERYTHING I do is for my kids. Even my job is my job because it works for my kids. We all need a break. And we all deserve one.

I was cabin crew for years and the women, including me, used to love doing a 5 or 6 day Caribbean trip, kids at home, decent sleep, peace and quiet, a few drinks. It was lush. I would highly recommended.

You could literally say this about Hitler.

It's such a cop-out, and/or cover for arch-individualists who don't believe humans have any responsibilities towards one another.

The Musks of this world.

I’d kill for a break away from my kids.

I have 3 kids under 10. I went to South Africa last year for 6 nights on my own to visit my sick dad. I also went to Portugal in October for a girls weekend. The kids were safe and happy with their dad and I am happy and fulfilled. Win-win!

Nothing wrong with it! You’re still people, not only parents.

This!!

A couple of years ago, my DCs spent 3 nights with their bio-dad while me and DH went to a fabulous, adults only resort in the Balearics.

DCs had fun with their dad. DH and I came back relaxed, refreshed and ready to get stuck back into being the resident parents doing the vast majority of the parenting.

Who are they leaving baby with? That would be my only question and if it’s dad or someone else suitable then I’d reply with “Hope you have some fun”

@Pinkdreams your post says a lot about your values.

what about dads who go on holiday? What about parents (either sex) who have work trips?

’As a mother’ do you not think you should be more open minded - understand that people are different? Or do you want your children to grow up as minutes and narrow minded as you are?

I personally couldn’t do it but that’s because we rarely get to go on holiday and so I’d rather spend the money giving my child experiences and fun and not just me.

However if I was in a position where I could afford to take my kids on multiple holidays, then I wouldn’t think twice about it.

There are lots of places that I want to go but my DD wouldn’t be that interested and it would be a lot of money to spend on them.
So I’m waiting until they’re older and then I’ll go.
If I had the money, I would take them on a kid friendly holiday and then go away for a weekend to somewhere less child friendly.

God, better not ever leave the house just in case 'something happens',

knob😂

You do you

dont be ridiculous. I don’t get why as mothers we have to give up our whole being just because we have children. I go away for a long weekend with my friends every year and dh has done a couple of vegas trips with his father and brother. This year me and dh are going away for a week while the kids are on holiday with gp’s. We often do nights/weekends away together because as much as I am a mother I am also a wife/partner and I was that a long time before my kids came along.

OP are you sure it’s not jealousy seeing people on Facebook in Dubai whilst you’re holidaying in a Caravan?

I agree with you, OP. I wouldn't do it.

At what point does this stop? Because my DC are 19 and 20. Am I still supposed to take them with me every time I go on holiday?

Why does it matter to you what others do though? It suits you not to go on holiday without your DC but doesn't necessarily suit others. Neither is wrong surely?

Seriously @Pinkdreams ffs! We can’t be chained to our children 24/7. Anything could happen anytime!

I have to travel to Asia multiple times a year for work. Should I take a lesser role and stay at home with my children?