To think it’s wrong to go on holiday without DC

[Pinkdreams]

I keep seeing on Facebook women going on holiday multiple times a year, leaving their young DC at home, this isn’t just one person it’s multiple, as a mother I couldn’t stand the thought of being in a different country to my child, what if something happened? Is it just me? Is this the norm?

I’m one of those bad parents :)

I’ve done it 3 times since both girls born - 4 days for a wedding , 3 days for our 20th wedding anniversary and this year 5 days.

My husband and I are very much looking forward to our 5 days this year! Girls are 15 & 22 so they will be fine! We have taken them on some lovely holidays over the years - this one is few years to late for my. Husband 50th! They are chuffed for us to be going!

Oh it gets better

Pinkdreams · 18/02/2025 20:05

I used to always get complaints for being rude when actually I was just being honest and had the balls to say what everyone else was saying. Can't please everyone

I haven't left my almost 4 YO for more than a night and then only with DH but I think YABU for judging others.

I think you're a bit dramatic

I travel internationally for work a few times a year. My trips take me to the other side of the world.

What's your judgemental opinion on that?
Or are you like my dads wife who has no issue with my husband travelling but feels the need to comment on my trips all the time 🙄

Yes according to the OP’s other thread, this child does have a father but the problem is… he doesn’t want to join the Op on a holiday!!!

The plot thickens! 🤣

I didn’t do it when my kids were small. One, we couldn’t have afforded it and two, I’d have missed them too much. But people are different. Try minding your own business and letting others mind theirs. You don’t want to leave your kids, that’s fine. They enjoy some time away without their kids, also fine. I’m sure the kids are being cared for.

Oh dear.

Is it okay if men leave their children or is it only women who get judged?

Basically the OP’s partner doesn’t want to join her and baby on a trip abroad according to her other thread

Gosh, OP. Those who bare their souls really shouldn’t throw stones.

Things I haven’t done as a parent:
Facilitated a partner to have zero responsibility and act utterly selfishly
Slagged partner off/tried to force him to go to a caravan park with a gaggle of my family
Tried for a second baby with above partner
Palmed my baby off for a monthly sleepover before she turned one
Smoked while baby was on above sleep over
Had nights out before she turned one.

Brilliant!

and if anyone confused, check out the OP’s posting history

DH and I have been on 5 city breaks abroad since we became parents. The first time we did one, the kids were 5 and 8. This year, we went to the Canary Islands for 5 nights (kids are now late teens). We do also take the kids on holidays- I wouldn’t be doing child free trips if we couldn’t also afford to offer them holidays.

Whilst away, I have had fleeting moments of guilt here and there but those were soon assuaged by ordering another beer and more tapas.

My kids will hopefully be moving out of home at some point in the next few years. I don’t want to find myself left with a husband with whom I’ve lost touch. I don’t want my entire identity to be based around motherhood. Getting away with the DH for some child free time has been great- I recommend it.

My parents went on holiday every other year just the two of them, which was very healthy. My DH and I would go away for our anniversary weekend. But now I’m widowed I do find it hard to get on an airplane without them. I’m terrified now of something happening to me, even though they are no longer minors, there’s just no one else.

He’s Schrodinger’s Partner: simultaneously useless and not useless (while being utterly useless but somehow getting more than one women to have children with him).

Wow OP, quite the revealing posting history you've got there.

I love going on holiday without my children.

I also love going on holiday with them.

We can afford to do both and they get to spend quality time with their loving and adoring GPs when me and DH are away.

Sometimes my kids even go away with out me (Scouts).

I also travel for work.

God forbid your child gets an inkling you, very occasionally, enjoy … ✨ something other than parenting ✨- doesn’t that carry a death sentence these days?

DS knows we have a great time travelling together. He knows I have a great time travelling by myself occasionally, for work and sometimes for fun - although I do miss him. I’m glad he sees a healthy, balanced approach and doesn’t feel like I depend on him for my own happiness, or base my entire life around his happiness!

Just women or men too?

Who cares? I didn’t leave mine because I didn’t want to. If I had wanted to I would have done. This is definitely an each to their own situation.

If you don't like, and judge, the people you're friends with, get new friends.

Thought it was haven?

I’ve always had weekends away without mine - they survived unscathed.

It’s not compulsory and YOU don’t have to do it but you also don’t get to judge people who do.

Mother in law?? Is that you??

'Something happens' is rather a large and vague category, but what is likely to happen that couldn't happen if all parties were at home? Or if all parties were abroad?