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To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

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Raven25 · 22/03/2025 13:48

This morning I went to a weekly parents/young children swimming session with my DD at a national hotel/leisure club chain. We go most weeks and there’s usually a similar crowd in attendance.

It is predominantly other Mum’s who go, with the odd Dad.

Today, one of the other Mum’s was wearing what I can only describe as a thong, in fact it was more of a g string and barely contained her modesty. My DD pointed at her from the pool when she was walking in the opposite direction and asked where her clothes were. I could tell others in the pool had noticed her and didn’t know what to think.

Everyone else was wearing all in one style costumes or the odd bikini which actually fits.

I found this completely inappropriate given it was a swimming session for toddlers/young children, that outfit was more appropriate for someone on only fans!

On the way out, I spoke to one of the staff on reception and asked them whether they enforce certain standards to which I was told it’s up to visitors what they wear but they draw the line at any full nudity - which I’d argue this was. They didn’t seem too bothered and the young female colleague listening in next to her said ‘it’s nice to see a mum with that much confidence’ which I felt was rude. It’s not about confidence, it’s about respect.

I’ve got home and told DH who thinks I was ridiculous to complain and says he’d be embarrassed to turn up there with me next time we go to the gym together!

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Isxmasoveryet · 01/07/2025 09:48

Perfect example of someone with way to much time on their hands and little to fill it maybe stick to the coffee shops and cocktail bars when other half at work

Jade520 · 01/07/2025 09:49

I think it's grim at a swimming pool OP, especially at a children's session. It's also really strange that people think you must be jealous. Jealous of someone having their arse hanging out? Why would you be jealous, anyone can have their arse hanging out if they want. I'd hazard a guess that the people saying you must be jealous are the same people who parade around the swimming pool in their thong.

OneEagerPoster · 01/07/2025 09:49

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Lucillebatwings · 01/07/2025 10:04

I don’t like them but I wouldn’t have complained - they aren’t really anything to be offended about.

Im on holiday and we were sat next to a family yesterday who were all wearing them. They do look almost naked in them don’t they, especially from the back.

Not for me but each to their own. They cover what they really need to.

CorbyTrouserPress · 01/07/2025 10:06

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Surely anyone can show off their own arse if they choose to?

IwasDueANameChange · 01/07/2025 10:21

I wouldn't have complained but I'd have
a) judged the fuck. It 100% is attention seeking. It's not practical functional clothing, its a step away from flashing. Nobody wants to see your arse cheeks, no matter how sculpted they are.
b) not returned to that leisure club as I don't like to mix with that sort of crowd.

Crazycatlady79 · 01/07/2025 10:38

Seeing as we don't police overweight individuals for having extra flesh on display (as an overweight woman, my flesh sometimes hangs out of my costume), I don't tend to overly judge a female in a thong.
If anything, I'd probably be a bit jealous and wishing I had the figure to wear one.

CorbyTrouserPress · 01/07/2025 12:08

Crazycatlady79 · 01/07/2025 10:38

Seeing as we don't police overweight individuals for having extra flesh on display (as an overweight woman, my flesh sometimes hangs out of my costume), I don't tend to overly judge a female in a thong.
If anything, I'd probably be a bit jealous and wishing I had the figure to wear one.

We may not police, but society certainly judges.

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