Toddler dad picking up and touching other people's kids at playgroups

[Babycatsarenice]

I've come across a Dad in the local park who once weirdly sort of patted my daughter's back when she was crawling past in the playground. Recently at at toddler group I saw the same Dad picking up someone else's kid and putting her on a chair and also messing about withanother kids hat. Strikes me as wierd I never really touch other people's toddlers unless to stop them falling over or falling on another kid. I think he shouldn't do this. AIBU?

1 in 4 families are headed by a single parent. 75% is not the vast majority. Even if, as you suggest, most children spend at least some time with their fathers, it is not a given that all these men are quality fathers and good role models. It seems that you are also making a lot of assumptions about men.

I think you’ll find that 75% IS the vast majority 🤷‍♀️.

What assumptions am I making?

A vast majority of something is usually taken to mean an overwhelming majority. Otherwise, why not just say a majority? 25% is a very significant proportion of something, not such a small amount as to be unimportant or irrelevant.

This. I agree OP- for whatever reason it's triggered your spidey senses- I'd keep an eye on him too!

A simple ‘majority’ is from 51% up.

A ‘vast majority’ is 75% and upwards so that’s the word I used.

An ‘overwhelming majority’ is “a lot more than” 50% so ‘vast majority’ and ‘overwhelming majority’ are effectively the same thing. I can call it an ‘overwhelming majority’ if you prefer?

You seem to have got so distracted by the finer definitions around ‘majority’ that you haven’t answered my question and started making up things I haven’t said. Any thoughts?

OP has probably left this thread but I find it creepy. A lot of you seem very naive into how common pedophiles are. Even if not one this man definitely lacks boundaries.

Really? Where's the evidence?

Im very much like this with children (within reason). But because of this era's madness, I sometimes feel awkward about it. Sad really :(

Where are you getting this definition from?

Public Park, Playgroups, Softplay, parents should be watching their own kids, even if it’s from a distance.

I do feel for men who feel they need to be so careful all of the time but as long as parents are watching their own kids, it really shouldn’t be an issue that someone is interacting with them.

If parents watched their kids, even us Mums wouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable helping a child who needs a little help because their parent(s) think it’s a break for them and leave them to it.

A consensus of various internet sources and discussions. Where are you getting yours?

You still haven’t answered my question though :-)

It isn't because she didn't like you touching him, it's because you interrupted her conversation to make her look after her own kid, and, by implication, made it clear what a crap mother she is 🙂. What sort of mother doesn't comfort her child when he's hurt?