To report my son as missing?

[stucky]

Wondering when to start panicking? DS 22, hasn't been home since Friday day time. He usually lets me know what's going on. It's not unusual for him to spend time at a friends for a day or two, however I've messaged his closest friends, no one's seen him since Friday. His phone been dead since Saturday morning. I know he's not a child, but he's my son and I'm concerned about his wellbeing. Should I report him as a missing person? Or am I overreacting? I just don't know what to do.

Please be kind, I am currently feel very fragile.

Most of us - mercifully - were raised by loving caring Mothers. Not violent thugs.

Liverpool with plenty of news! Yeah let myself down there not reading all of the Op's posts. It still stands however with a son now revealed to be mentally fragile, his mother wasn't overly concerned about zero contact from him in 3/4 days. Even finding out he wasn't at work was 'Oh so and so said he's at so and so's house"so without checking, she just assumed he was there and well. At least he's okay. I guess everyone parents differently and you know your own child.

Gosh I haven’t read all the comments but I would hope that everyone has been kind. you must be worried sick, I hope he’s home soon . 😢

He was home yesterday!

She still sounds like a lovely mum

And you felt the need to tell me this because ?

I presume because you said you hope he's home soon

But he is home already

How is that not pwrfectly obvious? You said you hoped the son was home soon and @CustardySergeant told you that he already was 🙄

Really pleased he's home safe, it's great that he's come home spoke to you and asked for counselling that's really nice that you both have that relationship I wish him luck through his hard times and that a silver lining will appear through take care xx

Presumably because you couldn't be arsed to even read the OP's updates?

Because you lack comprehension apparently. HTH

Hope he's ok I'm sure you have reported by now but yes definitely do. I understand that your son may be upset with you reporting but it's never worth the risk of not reporting even though he's an adult. But my sister had a breakdown and disappeared for a few days it was freezing at the time she was found but with police help it was a couple of days she was about 40 at the time but vulnerable. She then got the help she needed too the police were really good actually. Hope you can update us OP really hope all is ok.

I don't think at any point I was 'happily posting on mumsnet', chilling watching TV or any other variation of uncaring, in different or otherwise. I just want to stress that I was trying to be measured and respectful with my approach to the situation. Everyone's boundaries and approaches to situations differs, that's what's great about using a platform like Mumsnet. It also makes the world wonderful and interesting.

For clarity, views differed greatly between our loved ones ranging from call the police immediately to I never told me mum where I was at 22, he's absolutely fine. Hard when instinctively I was in a panic and unable to think clearly, getting some external perspective felt like a sensible step. It's okay if some people don't agree with my approach, I wasn't looking for validation or consent from other users to post on mumsnet.

Again, I just want to thank people for being so supportive, it's been quite overwhelming. Apparently it's not a case of simply deleting a post and I didn't want to ignore anyone who took the time to read my post and then respond. So to those who posted, irrespective of your tone, thank you for taking the time to respond.

My mum was loving and kind and supportive and sweet.
She was also very beautiful.
She freaked herself out on one single occasion.
We both learned a lesson that night.
Lol at your “violent thugs.” My mum isn’t alive any more, but she’d laugh her arse off too.
I just love how people take one single experience from a complete stranger’s life and judge their entire existence on it.
Sooo very fair and balanced.
Sooo very you, evidently (see how easy that is?).

My god you nasty mumsnetters are like a pack of hyenas! I was busy but wanted to be kind and show her some support ! It’s clearly a crime now among you non-perfect idiots! 🤷‍♀️

So why post such an unfair and unbalanced comment? You deliberately portrayed your 'loving and kind and supportive and sweet' mother as a violent thug. Probably best you delete it and consider what made you be so nasty about this paragon.

Your post didn’t portray that though, did it? You only spoke about your mum punching you in the face for being late home.

People can only make assumptions on what they are told.

No matter how you dress it up, most mothers don’t go around punching their kids in the face.

Report him missing doh!

I think maybe the incident was described badly? It also made no sense to me but I think that pp meant her mum thought she was out and the person coming home was an intruder??

Now you know that if a threads been running a while there a risk of making oneself look silly, no need to be nasty to people

Thank you for posting a sensible response.

I think it was people being nasty to me for trying to be kind and supportive when I had very little time!

Doh indeed 🙄

Any update?