Sell the story, if so to who?

[cupsandcupsoftea]

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

She hasn't said she'd even thought about it though, has she? She didn't ask whether she should report it to the police, she wanted to know which media outlets would be interested.

She been given that advice, multiple times and is still stating that she wouldn't turn down the money. Whether it would go to charity or not, the ops main priority is to get money, not to go through the correct channels to ensure that if he has done wrong, it is dealt with properly. Other posters have given her reasons why she shouldn't do it the way she proposes.

It’s not usually that quick unless they really are the flasher types doing it for a thrill. I do think some men are deluded enough to believe you’ll feel obligated to respond in kind.

Years ago I decided to try a bit of online dating - put up quite an innocent - looking for a fun guy to get to know type of profile - hadn’t even put a photo up at this point.

Went to bed - got up next morning to a unbelievable 80ish messages. About 9 of them were just dick pics - not even a hello. About 20 were straight into sex talk. So I immediately deleted all of those.

After looking through the rest who’d responded in a normal way and deleting those who didn’t appeal or lived too far away I was left with about ten that I started conversations with and despite being very clear that I was looking for a serious relationship and wanted to take it slow, over half of those went to asking for nudes, offering nudes or asking to start sexting within a couple of messages.

And this was all pre Tinder and the rise of the acceptable casual hook up - it was a proper ‘dating’ site.

This, too! was just about to edit my previous post to point out that not only has a councillor committed a crime, he seems to have used his official mobile to do so.

Go for him, @cupsandcupsoftea. Ignore these idiots trying to shut you up.

It’s illegal to send unsolicited dick pics so inform the police, get a crime reference number and then expose him - so to speak

‘Journo vultures’?! The two journalists on here have offered advice to the OP on how to go about exposing this pervert, and neither have offered money or tried to entice more details out of her 🤷🏻‍♀️

As is you hunting him down and contacting him off-app.

It's not ok to send someone unsolicited nudes and the fact that women on here seem to think it's ok depresses me.

I would block him on WA and then speak to his party / council leader anonymously telling them what happened. I wouldn't go to the media. They could sensationalise it and drag you through the mud too.

If OP's story is correct she was trying to do him a favour.

The number she got is in the public domain.

I'd actually be grateful to know someone was impersonating me online or using my information to catfish.

No it isn't and it's nothing compared to sending unsolicited nudes.

OP ignore those sticking up for the bloke. Report to the police and to the council. I hope you are alright; it's happened to too many of us.

Yes it is a crime. Thank heavens we've finally got unsolicited nudes made a crime, so don't try to belittle it.

I really don't think a women's charity would want to be associated with the profits of a sleazy story in the press

A man being a creep on a dating site isn’t news, even if he’s a councillor. And unfortunately yes creeps can be legitimate councillors. We’ve elected prime ministers and presidents who’ve been known for much worse behaviour than sending nudes to a woman they were chatting to on a dating site!

It's a crime. Don't try to make out it's not a big deal. It is. No man should be doing this.

Nobody is interested in a councillor, they are absolute nobodies, except in their own heads. If it was an MP you might have some interest. But your behaviour sounds suspect too, like you were targeting him to reel him in. If he said/sent something illegal, you should inform police, not the press. Otherwise leave it.

That's what I'm thinking. Did anything illegal happen?

Sending unsolicited nudes is illegal. How many times does it need saying?

He claimed to be someone , a councillor, OP looked him up to make him aware someone was pretending to be him - and it was him. Nothing shitty about her behaviour. Unless you're a man who likes committing crimes.

I wouldn’t judge you if you did. He sounds like a total sleaze.

What are you on about?? She said she doesn’t!

She hasn’t hunted him down ffs. He’s a public servant!! He’s details are in the public domain!

What a ridiculous comment.

This is an excellent post

“expose” is the wrong word to use in this context, OP.

We need more women like you OP to take action against disgusting men for the sake of other women everywhere 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 please report the crime and also complain to whoever you feel able to.

I'd go with the local papers but the one that's local to him rather than you.

So, you want to 'out' him because he 'was a bit horrible' to you? And he's a creep? And you think it's your civic duty, as a responsible citizen, to let the world know?? And of course, you'll donate any monies received, to a charity? Give your head a wobble and move on ffs!

Did he send those messages and nudes from his constituency mobile? THAT is totally inappropriate and probably should be reported to whichever party he's from.