Sell the story, if so to who?

[cupsandcupsoftea]

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

I am a local newspaper reporter. No local papers in this country pay for stories.

This councillor (and many do have their mobile numbers on their council profiles) has potentially committed a criminal offence so you should go to the police, his party, and the council’s monitoring officer.

I’m sure your local newspaper would also appreciate a tip-off, although they likely won’t be able to run anything until the charging stage due to privacy laws (thanks Cliff!)

Sorry for multiple posts 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sending unsolicited nude photos is illegal.

I missed a lot of words out there...

Mr Deliveroo came to the door. I was distracted by his large delivery of healthy foods so I don't have to go shops in the morning 😭

Blackmail him. Find something that really needs to be sorted in your community and tell him he needs to make it happen or you'll spill the beans!

Not true. Many councillors have their personal mobile numbers on council websites.

It's actually a crime. Cyberflashing.

If you genuinely want to expose him, report him to the police.

Information on why it's a crime is here:
https://www.cps.gov.uk/cps/news/illegal-sexual-behaviour-online-including-sharing-and-threatening-share-intimate-images

As a former councillor I can assure you it really isn't that uncommon - I'm assuming op means the local council website which will have a gov.uk suffix. Phone numbers will also be on calling cards and election material. We weren't given mobiles by the council so the choice was give out your own number or the town hall could be used and messages passed on. I didn't have mine on the council website but most of my colleagues did.

It’s messages like this that make me wonder no wonder men think it’s ok to send unsolicited nudes. Would it be ok for him to flash her in person too?
Nevermind the fact he’s in a position whereby he’s supposed to have a higher level of conduct 🤦‍♀️

EDIT - no idea where the message I was quoting has gone. But it basically said it’s normal to send nudes to strangers

This. How grubby of you op. He hasn't covered himself in glory but neither have you

Report to Police. It’s a crime.

More tea vicar?

I just don't understand... Why you knew who he was, and you googled to make sure.

Okay, because if it Bob from the chip shop then... Today's newspapers are tomorrow's fish and chip... Nevermind.

Not even an MP?

I'd be over the moon if it was Jacob Rees Mogg! Not for you OP, I'd personally crows fund your therapy.

But... How did you recognise him to Google him?

There is a very strict Code of Conduct for councillors. You can make a formal complaint via the Monitoring Officer of the council. Their name & email address will be on the council website.

But it’s the ‘unsolicited’ bit that is contestable.

Depending on the dating site - depending on the dating profile - depending on the initial interactions. Depending on the whether he assumed her following him up on a different platform meant she was really interested in more of the ‘disgusting’ chat.

OP says he deleted the pics when she didn’t respond with interest. It’s possible he screwed up by using his official device for those messages so that could get him into trouble.

Sorry I totally missed he sent nude photos - thought he was asking for them - which is vile but not a crime (on strong painkillers after a fall).

I would report to police and not sell a story

This is so weird. I’m just here to see what happens next… 🍿

Yup. I made about 20 different calls to councillors’ mobile phones today as part of my job.

It’s not normal but it’s very common. It was like that 20 years ago when I was OLD but I think it’s even worse now.

The quick leap from normal initial pleasantries to the sex talk is the sign pictures will probably come next. Then a request for pictures of you in return.

Unless that’s all your kink then the best thing to do is block at first sign of incompatibility - the first “what I want to do to you is…” Block/Gone.

The guys who genuinely want to pursue a relationship don’t do any of that.

Are you sure it was actually him, Op? Could it have been someone causing trouble for him?

@cupsandcupsoftea With second name beginning with H? 🤔

Am so sheltered! How on earth does it go from 'hail fellow, well met!' to 'here's my willy!' in the next message?!

It doesn’t in my very sheltered world.

No one and nothing.

I am fucking horrified that there are grown women who think it's absolutely fine for a man to send them unsolicited dick pics. What the hell kind of world are my daughters growing up in?

Why is that bit contestable and the rest of the post not? We can only advise based on the assumption OP is telling the truth. I don't see any reason for her to lie, but if she has then so what, the post is about what to do when someone sends unsolicited nudes.