To think it's odd this family don't use terms of endearment?

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So, a family I've known for over 35 years, all lovely people etc but they don't use any form of endearment in every day life. I've spent many days and nights and holidays etc with them, so have seen them at their best, worst and all in between.
There's no darling/hun/sweetheart/dear/dearest etc
It was so jarring once I noticed.

AIBU it think it's a bit odd?

I mean, nothing at all to do with me, doesn't affect me... but find it a little sad to be frank.

Do they look like a happy family?

Not odd at all. Most people I know wouldn't use terms of endearment in public.

Not weird as such some people are just like that
I never use any terms of endearment other than with my kids but to other adults it makes me feel weird and awkward

Wtf? I never use any of those terms?

to me it’s jarring when people do. It’s weird.

then I work on the general rule of thumb that the more public and gushy people are the more likely the relationship isn’t great.

Dh and I never use them, never have. I sometimes might call one of the children lovey or sweetness but as they are both early teens, it's to annoy them. I had to drive my 40 something brother and his partner somewhere recently and they kept calling each other love. I wanted to crash the car just to make it stop.

No one in our family would ever use those terms.

There's no darling/hun/sweetheart/dear/dearest etc
It was so jarring once I noticed.

No I don’t find that odd at all. I’ve never used any terms like this.
Do you think you can’t be as close to someone if you don’t call them dearest??

I actually only know one couple that uses any and when they say it I wince a little as it seems fake to me!!! (In Ireland though so it could be just where you’re from?)

We use our given names only, we don’t hug or say we love each other. Our ‘terms of endearment’ are that we don’t fight/argue etc. All good with us 😁

I don't think my in-laws ever do (and they insist on calling my DH by his full name and not the shortening that he calls himself). I've never really thought about it before though. Different families are different like that. The thing that does make me want to vom though is when my FIL addresses my MIL as 'mum' like 'Mum, can you put the kettle on?'.

You ok hun?

I wouldn’t call my family or husband any of those in public/with people around, it’s not to do with lack of endearment it’s just something I’d say at home in private. Just feels a bit cringey ib front of others

My husband doesn't use any terms of endearment - I'd love it if he did, but it just isn't the way he was brought up. I know he loves me, he tells me and shows it in so many other ways.

I would struggle not to laugh if someone called their other half “dearest” in front of me!

I think it’s sad if people don’t tell each other they love them, if they do.
It’s especially important for children to hear those words even if adults have become too immune to care.

We don't and I don't know anyone who does. I'd never use any of those terms.

We do hug and say we love each other (and the older children will use terms of endearment like knob or dick splat 😂)

I absolutely hate it when some calls me hun or darling in a shop etc. it's demeaning and patronising.

What an odd observation. Some people use those terms some don’t. Dh and I never have.

I think it's jarring when people do use these terms! Hun? Dearest?

Ick.

Some families aren’t that way inclined. Personally I like a nickname, endearment or family term. Conversely, in-laws would rather cut out their tongues than use anything but a given name.

I just call my husband by his name. If I noticed people calling each other sweetie/darling/honey etc. I'd find it a bit cringey.

Yeah that's grim but not as bad as when couples call each other babe or baby!

You don't tell your kids you love them, or hug them...?

I'm talking about yours kids here too ...

You never call your kids darling or pet or love or sweetie or anything similar?? Just their name only??