To think it's odd this family don't use terms of endearment?

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So, a family I've known for over 35 years, all lovely people etc but they don't use any form of endearment in every day life. I've spent many days and nights and holidays etc with them, so have seen them at their best, worst and all in between.
There's no darling/hun/sweetheart/dear/dearest etc
It was so jarring once I noticed.

AIBU it think it's a bit odd?

I mean, nothing at all to do with me, doesn't affect me... but find it a little sad to be frank.

You never ever use darling or love it whatever with your kids? Literally just use their names only??

Or mine.

We never use those terms either. They make us uncomfortable.

My family would never use any of those words, quite normal.

No. It's just a bit of a mystery to me that you have never once called your child "love" or "darling" or "sweetie" or whatever term you'd prefer.

I never use them, I don't think any of us do in our house, it doesn't mean I don't love people any less.

I suppose I got out of the habit trying to fit in, in a middle class environment as I saw them as a working class thing. Growing up I got called love, duck etc but it's not something you would say in a professional environment, so I don't really do it at home either.

So, you've never once answered your kids with "yes darling?" Or "what is it love?"

That kind of thing?

I call my husband ‘my sweet love’ when I’m frustrated with him. And I use a certain tone!! 😂

I've never used those terms either.

I am genuinely shocked that you don't call your kids darling or love or anything like that.

Never once said "yes my darling it's...." "No, sorry my love ..." Or "come along sweetie".

It any similar phrases / terms.

Always " yes Johnny/ No sorry Johnny / come along Johnny" ?

Madness!!!

So you literally just call your kids by their name and nothing else???

Husband, no. Kids, absolutely.

We never use them either, unless we are joking around. I might use an over exaggerated 'Honeyyy' when I'm asking for a cheeky cup of tea, but that's definitely just at home. I call my 3 year old baby sometimes, but that will stop soon (pretty sure she'll tell me to stop soon).

My late Mil never kissed any of her grandchildren.
Only held as babies but no cuddles.
Yet they all remember her fondly and very loved.
DH can't remember her giving him or his brother a kiss or cuddle.

I don't use any with dh. Only dear as in 'yes dear' - which is our non-secret code for 'you're being an absolute prick here'.

For the dc, I've used baby, baby boy, my darling and lovely or my lovely...infrequently though. All sound fucking terrible and cringey written down 😂

No, and my parents have never called me darling or love, and same with my kids. Doesn’t mean there isn’t love there.

Bizarre.

Most people don’t or they say it when they aren’t in public.

I rarely use that kind of term of endearment towards teen ds as he would be embarrassed and mortified but sometimes it happens.

Why is it jarring? Just because someone uses them in public, I wouldn’t assume that they were more loving and better as people.

It's not bizarre OP it's just a different way of operating. Not using those terms doesn't mean people love their family less than you?

My Mum only ever once called me 'love' - for reasons unclear - and it felt really odd. We had a great relationship.

We do for the kids, but not each other. I cringe when my brother and his gf call each other “Babe” 🤢

Well quite clearly people are all very different and not the same as you. Bizarre to me that some people think everyone is just like them. As you can see on this thread, it’s not that abnormal.

Not everyone has kids. You don't need children to be a family.

We don't use pet names, we have two friends who call each other 'darling' and I find it cringey and forced. The only time I swoon over someone and use pet names is with the dog, who gets all sorts of mushy pet names.

My (very loving and otherwise affectionate) parents don't use terms of endearment for either of us! I tried to imagine my mum saying darling or something and just laughed, sounds very weird. She does occasionally call me a nickname based on my name though. DH and I have dozens of ridiculous nicknames for each other but I don't think we've ever called each other babe/darling etc.

My DC have nicknames which only DH and I use, but there's no other terms of endearment unless used in an over the top "yes my darling child, light of my life, how may I serve you" sort of way!

Why are you assuming everyone has children?! That's been your response to almost every poster?!

Your post said "family". Not children.