He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

I wondered why Fatboy Slim was going round my head!

OP, what would you think if this was another mum suggesting 'why don't we meet socially?' or offering some helpful skills?

It was Badly Drawn Boy wasn't it?!

Well yes but OP isn't going to let actual facts derail her batshit thread 😃

Thanks @Heylittlesongbird thought I was losing my marbles till you explained it. Poor bugger (the bloke that is).

op, are you high?

No but her horse is 🏇

Are you a group of single women who've used donor sperm?
Or are you a group of gay women who don't like men being part of the group?

Or neither.

Still unsure what the 'donor' bit of your posts means.

When mine were younger, I used to imagine all the exotic places I would go to without them all the time. Like a city break or even just to the shop or the loo.

Anyway, do you mean that he wants to go away like camping with all the single mums in the summer without the kids? Not just meet up for a drink? I wouldn’t want to go camping with someone I barely knew especially if they were going to lecture me on damp and mould around the fireplace.

I'm getting Kevin from Motherland vibes 🤣🤣

*edit around the fire I mean.

Meaning we all have our kids 100% of the time
...
Because there is no other parent.

So stop with the comments

He's very full on!

That's what Im gathering....

You ok?

Yes I would love 50:50 custody to get some time to do my own thing haha..... But I meant meeting someone I don't know, it's very full on when you have your kid with you

There's absolutely nothing wrong with this at all.
Anyone joining any group at all is free to ask the others if they fancy a social activity outside of the group meetings.

He's obviously lonely and maybe you need to take that on board rather than thinking he's weird or trying to hit on one of you.

If the group has a niche- gay, single women, children by sperm donors, parents conceived by donor, whatever...you need to make it clear and create means by which 'imposters' aren't welcome.

And literally no other form of childcare for any of you?

See that is strange.

Perhaps he assumed at least one of you might know or be related to a babysitter or childminder 😳

You can't tell people here to stop commenting. You've chosen to post on a public forum.

It was a genuine question because you used the word 'donor' twice, to describe yourselves in the group.

Many of us here have no idea what you meant by that.

If you simply mean you are all single women, and there is no father around, fine.

But why use the word 'donor'?

Oh ,sorry, I'm not supposed to ask you anything.😂

The vast majority think your perspective is extremely odd @UniqueTraybake- you’ve posted an AIBU and nearly everyone says yes, YABU. You’ve got your answer.

Might be good for both you and your child for you to develop interests beyond spending every second of every day with your child. They grow up and get their own lives. You should have your own interests, adult friendships and so on too.

This thread is the weirdest thing I’ve read all day. And now I’m hungry for donors!!

Oh dear, you are right... Getting my Boy related singers muddled.

Or have a grandparent or sibling who could look after the child.

Maybe the 50:50 means a whole half rather than half a whole?

But I meant meeting someone I don't know, it's very full on when you have your kid with you

Most women do have parents, siblings, friends, etc.
It's odd not to have anyone to look after your child at all, ever.

Single mums often create friendships at the nursery/ school gate and help each other out so they can have some child-free time.

Has no one in the group managed to do this?

I’m not going to over think this, I imagine he wants to get his leg over with the nearest single mum. Lots of single mums will have parents/babysitters to provide childcare so they can date, so not weird, but probably not subtle as you’ve said he’s the only male in the group and he’s a co-parent rather than a single/solo parent. I imagine he joined for the sole purpose of getting his pick of the lonely horny single mums rather than wanting to hang out with their kids at the weekend.