He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

Correct. Although when you say that you think 50/50 means half of the time. It 100% means half of the time. Not sure how anyone could think otherwise 😂

Not no seriously 😂Sorry. It was a bad attempt at a joke about donor kebabs. Which has massively backfired because now I am craving one 😍

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Steady on Starlight. The OP is already struggling with fractions. Don’t start introducing percentages or it’ll be carnage!

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Maybe he’s trying to organise his summer now he knows the dates he’ll have his kids?

We have ingredients in for dinner tonight (and actually all week as I have been organised for once!) but I am tempted to text DH and ask him to pick a donor kebab and chips up on the way home.

YABU - donor kebabs are absolute filth and the definition of stuffing your face
YANBU - It's a Monday and you only live once. Enjoy the filthy, non-identifiable meat and worry about the consequences tomorrow.

Is the group largely populated by women who have no fondness for men in general?
<ties self in knots trying not to offend>

I expect we all are! The reason I asked if you were serious isn’t because I’m stupid (hopefully), but because I have read things on here that sometimes beggar belief. Some of them are so ‘out there’ that I wonder if it’s them or me!

No, I think that Milly has the phone, sounds more like the opinions of a 7 year old 😜🤣🤣

What a weird comment?

Oh definitely YANBU.

But then again I spent ages lovingly preparing a lasagne from scratch last Saturday, and then promptly texted my husband to pick up fish and chips for us all.

The stomach wants what the stomach wants 🤷‍♂️

Why not?

I for one was relieved when I could have some adult time as a parent. I was a better parent for time away from my kids, from early on to teenage years, as I was happier, calmer and more balanced.
He sounds like another single parent wanting to have more to life than just kids, and sounds like he is offering it to all (you said he had ideas for summer and is posting in a group chat).
So I think it sounds lovely to offer some social time and assistance.

😂There's a meme on Instagram about how you do a meal plan for the week, go food shopping to get all the ingredients and then pick up a takeaway on the way home because your brain is so exhausted from all the meal planning that you can't possibly cook anything. That is me.

Why not?

Classic MN:

OP: AIBU for some random thing

Unanimous MN: YES YOU ARE

OP: no I’m not and you’re all mean

Since the group is mostly single women, he probably sees it as a good opportunity to meet a new partner.

But since that's not the purpose of the group and outside the group norms, then I could also see some of the mothers not liking some guy hanging around looking for romance (if that's what he's up to).

However, many single women probably would like to meet a partner, so I also think his strategy is likely to work for him.

And then he'll no longer be a single parent, and he'll go away. :)

What about when they are at school? Don't you work?

Cling to the bars of the school gate, sobbing?

Okay, now THAT is weird.

Errr...50-50 means he has them for half the week surely?

Unless the name of your group is called single parents who have their kids 100% of the time and don't want to do anything without their kids ever - then he is not being weird. He is perhaps hoping that he meets people in a similar situation to himself who want to meet - sometimes without his kids when they are their mums. There is nothing weird about it - but you don't have to meet him if you're not interested.

Or he might just want a night out while he's child-free.

For all we know his mates might be busy/going out with their DPs etc.

No we are mostly donor single parent mum or the partner is AWOL.

I don't understand what a 'donor single parent mum' is.

We are mostly donor children.

Were you born from donor eggs/ sperm or your child?

Can you explain?

Do you mean you've had IVF with a donor egg? Or donor sperm?

Is your group exclusively for single parents and female?
And for women who've used donor sperm?

Was the group set up like that?

Sorry to be so uneducated on this.