To take away dd(13)s en-suite?

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Dd(13) has bedroom with an ensuite, 3 year old is at the moment in a tiny room that basically just fits a bed and wardrobe.

We want to combine dd’s en-suite and DH’s office to make decent size bedroom for 3 year old.

Up until dd(13) was 11 and we moved to a bigger house she always had to share with either younger brother or older step sister.

She thinks as she had to share until she was 11, that younger siblings should share until then or be lucky and get tiny room of their own. And that by the time toddler is that age she will move out and she can have her room.

Is it unreasonable to take away her en-suite?

What on earth has this girl done that she has had to share a room, then she's given a room, and now it's being snatched from her to accommodate a 3yr old?
Poor kid

Everyone around your way has one TV in the bathroom you say? Hang on, just one? Around our way we have two TVs in the bathroom and a home cinema experience in the boot room. Hope that one day you will be able to accept your diminished household facilities. Perhaps you could get counselling for it. Sending you hugs.

You are so rude! Clearly think you’re better than everyone else, which proves one thing!! You definitely are NOT!

Her room isn't being snatched away.

Whilst losing an en-suite will deminish the house's value, it is YOUR house and not your daughter's. She lives by your rules and not the other way round. When she is 18 she can have her own home, and she can tell you what to do in it, IF you get an invitation.

my daughter had a huge room with full ensuite and walk in wardrobe, the people we bought our house from designed it as parents with an only child, we also had a good sized double for my younger daughter and a spare room that was a very small double, the upstairs basically was badly proportioned. We took my daughters ensuite and walk in away when she was a 12 and added it to the smaller spare room so we had a better space for guests. I’m pleased we did it and my eldest wasn’t really bothered, her room is still 13 x

It’s satire 😂 @Clavinova has been telling several posters on here that we live in slums because we don’t have multiple en-suites, they are the rude one.

Could you merge enough of it, but leave her a toilet and sink?

Thank you, I appreciate your condescension. I’m already having counselling from a ‘non pearl clutching’ specialist and my two sons are being treated by a ‘not having an en-suite growing up’ specialist. I long for a home cinema experience in the boot room that I don’t have. Maybe one day.

Is this satire?

Her room isn’t being snatched.
The ensuite is being removed, no other children have an ensuite.
obviously she wasn’t the only child to share, the child she was sharing with also had to share.

Yes, it must be! 😂
It's been a surprisingly entertaining thread!

This ⬆️

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If the greatest childhood trauma dd can recall is when she lost her ensuite then I think I will be very happy and she will be very lucky.

Fair play to you @thatsfunnybecause to still be engaging with this, although I have to admit it has been very entertaining reading the outrage from some posters. FWIW I think you’re doing exactly the right thing.

Whilst I feel for her at that age having had the luxury of an en suite (something I, in my mid 40s have never had myself!) which is now being taken away, I do think there is a discussion here about en suites not being necessary and that families change and grow and finances change and grow and we are all have to adapt to different circumstances. I suspect deep down this has more to do with having a 3 year old sibling at the age of 13 which is quite unusual. I think she’s just asserting that she is losing out because of this.

Me too 😁!

Agree! These people who are outraged at her losing her en-suite must have been raised in castles. Jesus Christ. Most kids in large families would be happy just getting their own small room. Ignore the madness OP!

just proves my point!! @thatsfunnybecause only came on here for affirmation!

The SDD has a loo and sink with her room!

Definitely get rid of the en suite, but redo the family bathrooms first. The toddler would be fine with the box room for an extra year or two, and the improved family bathrooms would appease DD (notionally give her design input - totally within your control - so she invests in the change)

People going ape about removing an en-suite from one child (when no one else has one) are nuts. Why should one child have a single bed and a tiny box forever so the other can have their own bathroom. Might not be an issue to a three year old now but it will be at some point.

I can add that in my childhood home, I had much younger siblings and an older brother. I used to have the smallest room and I loved it, it was my space. My older brother didn’t mind sharing with a younger brother because he was never at home anyways and just used to sleep there at times. My parents used a living room downstairs as their own room. So essentially, we each had our own rooms.

One weekend I came home from visiting my (bio) dad and my parents had taken my room away so they could move back upstairs to have an extra ‘grown ups’ room downstairs for when their friends came round (which they never ever did) I was gutted, the home was toxic enough already and with my only personal safe space taken away, I ended up leaving home at 15. Obviously not the only reason but I think it significantly contributed to my unhappiness at home and I still resent my mother for doing that.

My point being is that, yes, every child (imo) should have their own room and space for solitude. So much so that I’ve always said I wouldn’t have more children than bedrooms. But, they don’t need a bathroom in that room and your DD is being selfish to think she should have all the extras whilst one should have the bare minimum. assuming her room is a decent size anyways to include a bathroom.

Ah

that makes sense

tho who builds a 7 bed house with 5 good size and 2 tiny box rooms

we def need floor plans

Tho she had to share with younger brother

Were you left with one bathroom or two after taking the en-suite away?