To take away dd(13)s en-suite?

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Dd(13) has bedroom with an ensuite, 3 year old is at the moment in a tiny room that basically just fits a bed and wardrobe.

We want to combine dd’s en-suite and DH’s office to make decent size bedroom for 3 year old.

Up until dd(13) was 11 and we moved to a bigger house she always had to share with either younger brother or older step sister.

She thinks as she had to share until she was 11, that younger siblings should share until then or be lucky and get tiny room of their own. And that by the time toddler is that age she will move out and she can have her room.

Is it unreasonable to take away her en-suite?

Is there another ensuite bedroom in the house?

No absolutely not unreasonable and I'm surprised you're even negotiating it with her! The best interests of the whole household are down to you and her other parent, not up to her to dictate what she wants, imo.

YABU.Teenage years are the worse years to take away an en-suite.

Let her keep it.

How old is younger brother ? Is toddler male or female?

My kids didn’t really play in their room until much older than 3 so a box room was fine.

Of course it is reasonable. Your circumstances have changed.

The value of your house will decrease dramatically if you take out a bathroom.

Plus, space is a key factor you have to take into account when you choose to expand your family, not just expect your existing children to suck it up and accept lower quality.

Pp are right - how many other bathrooms in your house ?

Honestly it’s best for the rest of the family of the teenager has her own en suite!

Of course it's not unreasonable. I don't think you should let a 13 yo dictated how you decide to accommodate everyone bedroom wise. Explain that there were different circumstance/finances over the years and this is what is happening now. End of.

If you’re taking away the office anyway, why not give toddler one small room for sleeping and the other small room for toys etc? Firstly because I wouldn’t give then take away (surely you’d have thought this through when dishing out the rooms in the first place?) and secondly as someone else said, removing a bathroom will impact your house value.

Fucking hell taking away her en suite is hardly like she is being forced to use an outhouse....
Make another room. .. Be the adult here...

Does a 3 year old need much more than a bed and somewhere to keep his clothes though? He's too young to be expected to play unsupervised in his room yet so will only be sleeping in there. I can understand why your daughter feels as she does, 3yo has his own room something she didn't have until she was 11. The en suite and privacy this affords her is probably really important to her.

Yes, our bedroom.
It’s not next to the office though and is the bathroom we use for for youngest two.

Step sisters bedroom isn’t technically an ensuite but is in the top floor where their is also a bathroom (just toilet and sink)

What more does a 3 year old need in their bedroom other than a bed and a wardrobe?

What will happen to the tiny room that your 3 year old is currently in?

I think you’d be crazy to lose an en-suite.

Impossible to comment without more information about how many bath/bedrooms you have and what you need. What’s the size of the study? If that’s being given up why not make that the LO’s bedroom if it’s bigger?

Very few teenagers have an ensuite! She'll cope. You're the adults, do the remodelling if it suits the family situation.

I understand why you would want to do it now rather than in the future when it’s more expensive etc but making the other 2 share until 11 because dd did isn’t what you should base your decision on

Office isn’t any bigger than the room toddler is in now.

You'll miss the extra bathroom.

By the time the 3 year old needs a room big enough for a desk the 13 year old will have moved out.

If there's already another ensuite bedroom in the house then take away your daughters and make the small bedroom bigger. I was only asking if there was another ensuite as if there wasn't you could be loosing value on your house if you where to sell.

Let her keep it, a three year old will not use there bedroom

You have another ten years before it starts to become issue by which time the 13 year old might move out

And the room becomes available

A problem for the future

The child had to share with her step sibling or her brother up until recently. Let her keep the ensuite. She has already had to get used to a step sister and cope with a baby brother.

Ask your selves why did you buy a house with a stupidly small bedroom for the baby. It's on you adults not her.

Can the 3 year old keep current bedroom and have office as a small playroom? This is what my teen does (his 'second' room is his computer room) as there is a bathroom between the two rooms.

Is older step sister around full time? If not then surely DD moves to the bedroom with its own bathroom next door as a full time live in child, SD gets the bedroom without an en-suite and you knock through the rooms for the 3 year old.

Let her keep it, and give the toddler the office as a playroom.