To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

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Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

That's awful.

Do you think she may have an eating disorder that you're unaware of?

I can't see any other reason for her going through all her underwear, clothes and coats with a scissors?

It’s not about the size of the individual, though.

I have a colleague who also suffers from “foot in mouth” syndrome and no, I don’t tolerate it.

Comments about how much I eat, how she couldn’t eat that much ever in one go, how tiny her wrists are compared to mine. Whilst I was pregnant it was “you look massive/round/portly” and so on.

For reference, I’m a size 8-10 and about 5 inches taller than her. So regardless of me being “slim”, I am just bigger than she is.

Not being a complete twat, I don’t make snide comments in return about her age and the menopause. But I could do. I don’t because it is profoundly unprofessional to make personal comments in the workplace.

In my workplace the dignity at work policy would be used to call her out and an apology would be expected.
At 5ft 1 my sizes will range from 10 to 16 so I certainly don't agree that certain sizes denote obesity. A dignity at work policy protects and allows an opportunity for reflection when it is breached.

Ok, it was rude and tactless, but to put it in perspective..
people can see you and nobody is shocked thinking you were a size 8.
In addition.. uk clothes sizes are shockingly inconsistent, .. I have sizes, 12 14 16 and 18 which all fit fine.

It's just a label, and it doesn't change you in the slightest.

Don't stress it

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This is the kinda thing that’s silly though, I don’t mean it offensive but instead of cutting labels why not just calories or food intake? I’m sure she wouldn’t be embarrassed if someone saw a size 10 label so instead of being like that over labels just do something about it for her own health and happiness.

Being angry at someone else for mentioning the size you actually are is a bit silly, no there is no reason to comment on anyone’s size I fully agree, but at the same time if it’s so embarrassing then do something about it. Saying the size out loud isn’t going to be a shock to anyone that was under the illusion you were 6 sizes smaller? People can see you and your weight?

I agree. Cutting the labels out of her clothes was pointless and also classic 'displacement activity' too. No doubt her colleagues could already see that she was very overweight, so whether she was actually a size 20 or a size 24 is neither here nor there.

She is actually a smaller size than you say . She buys clothes very seldom so doesn’t spend half of her life cutting labels out of things . We also live in the same house so it makes life easier if her and my underwear are easily recognisable.
Anyway it’s not hurting anyone else so there is no need to judge .

You are absolutely obsessed- and wrong, as EVERYONE on this thread keeps telling you, but you just repeat your ideas over and over. You either just love winding people up (in a really immature way) or you are crazy, or dumb?

Wrong about what?

About the way you keep banging on!

Definitely a weird and bitchy thing to do, having read your clarification.

Stop replying to me then! Seriously. You keep posting random stuff for no reason at all! Count how many times you’ve addressed me compared to the number of times I’ve ignored you.

Jeez you’ve just popped up again, can’t believe you’re still going. You may be better off setting up some kind of exercise class for the poor souls who aren’t as ripped as you

Literally every single time I open mumsnet I get a notification telling me someone has quoted me. How about people just stop repeatedly replying and let it die? I’m not going to change my view although it’s an interesting (wrong) snap judgement you’ve made.

People are quoting you to show you how many disagree with you.

Maybe turn the option for notifications off and you won’t be shown and you can let the thread die?

Or you could you just stop relentlessly quoting me? Why are you so obsessed with my comments on this thread?

But you don't ignore her you respond!! Another incorrect piece of information from you.

You're actually morbidly obese?!

I didn’t say I didn’t respond. I said count how many times I haven’t despite being quoted. It’s hilarious the hypocrisy. Stop quoting me and I won’t have anything to respond to. But you can’t have it both ways - you don’t get to keep enabling with me and telling me I’m wrong ANd tell me I cannot respond.

I’m just disappointed that we appear to have moved on from the unusually large pelvis.

The point, which seems to be getting increasingly lost in this back-and-forth on this thread, is that it's not just a matter of it being rude to comment publicly on someone's coat size, or even on their weight in general. It's rude to comment publicly on ANYTHING about someone else's body!

If it' were a one-off, one might forgive it; we've all made a 'faux pas' on occasion. But it sounds as though this colleague has form for this sort of thing.

Me too. So many questions.

I didn’t say the makes ignore. I said compare to the the number of times.

i am also not the one screaming let the thread die. People like you are. Whilst simultaneously replying. If YOU want it to die YOU stop replying. You don’t get to demand that I stop replying whilst you’re replying.

I never said I want the thread to die? It's all quite amusing to myself tbh.

The irony