To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

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Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

If you"re a certain size that's what you are. Sounds like you are offended by your size, nobody else cares.

Already been cleared up. Doesn’t alter that size 14 is still consistent with being overweight.

The irony of all these people screaming about fat shaming whilst actively fat shaming because someone dared to call someone large. So what? What’s the big deal if size 14 is large? Why is that such a terrible thing to suggest?

Is that uk 14 or is 14?

UK. I’m not familiar with US measurements - clearly.

What’s wrong with being large? The OP is large. So what? She knows that? Why is that considered negative? And what’s with people like you thinking it’s ok to come onto the post of someone like this and make out like being called large is the worst thing in the world? It’s people like YOU who are the problem. You’re the ones who are making large to be negative. I just said what it is. Entirely neutrally and all sorts of weird assumptions have been made from a place of judgment that was not mine.

Her colleague is a dick. Because it’s never ok to comment on people’s appearances negatively or make snidey comments. Not because the OP is large.

Ah so you’re accusing me of fat shaming whilst fat shaming whilst being ableist? Nicely done!

I worked with her. None of us believed she was a size 14 until she showed us and then ‘showed’ her pelvis through her clothes, it is much bigger than average but you can’t see it to look at her.

Ohhh so we’re pretending not to realise why someone who is a bigger size might not like the entire office knowing quite how big? Righty oh. Well you can’t play make believe but as a larger woman myself I’m not even entering into that nonsense. Anyone with any critical thinking ability, already knows precisely why.

I never once said that! You’re twisting my words to fit your own narrative. I said she was VERY THIN then discovered she was size 14, which is not very thin. I never once said nor implied size 14 was ‘big’ or anything like that! She just was incredibly thin, so we would’ve put her at around size 8/10 max.
Id bloody love to be a size 14! 🤣

I think it’s because if you write more than a few sentences on a post some people say “I’m not reading all that OP!”

Your colleague sounds like a knob op. Nobody will be surprised by your size, they work with you and see you.

What a horrible thing to say, I bet you wouldn't have the guts to say that to someone face to face, there's some cowardly bullying going on on this thread.

I hope you’re not referring to me with that comment because I am not. What there actually is some overly insensitive overweight women who are happy to call out someone for fat shaming a size 22 whilst simultaneously demonising being overweight with their how dare you suggest 14 is large nonsense.

Commenting on people’s appearance is never ok when done to be unkind but that doesn’t alter if you’re large you’re large whether anyone points it out or not.

A person who is a size 14 can't possibly look like they're a size 8. Your colleague is slim, but obviously also of bigger build so while her mass may not be made of fat, but of...pelvis..? its still there taking up more space than the mass of a woman who can fit into a size 8. If you stood her next to a size 8 woman you'd see her body was larger. Not inferior. Not fatter. But larger.

@Ritzybitzy well I'm a UK size 8-10, bmi of 22, and I wouldn't class a UK 14 as "large."
I appreciate that you're entitled to your opinion but I, and others do not have to agree with it. And yes "commenting on appearance" is never okay. Labels such as "skinny", and "large", are inappropriate and unnecessary 'IMO.'

You’ve got a healthy BMI at 8-10. Clearly if you were size 14 you would not.

How can you tell if someone has a healthy BMI from your dress size? Very weird posts from you ritzy bitchy, I have been size 14 most of my adult life, whenever weighed by a medical professional for various reasons i was always told I was exactly a healthy weight, im also on the healthy weight section in that old fashioned height to weight graph, i was size 14 when i did IVF and HAD to be a healthy weight to get this treatment - were all those doctors actually lying to me??? Or maybe they took a liking to me, felt sorry for me, thought they'd let this large overweight woman have her baby!!

Did you need xray glasses? I’m still intrigued as to how this all played out 😂

She’s just told me her BMI so it’s easy in her case and actually she is the perfect example. I actually don’t believe you’re healthy at that size.

Are you a medical professional?

Are you?

Lol no!! But you are saying you know more (or different) to doctors, so I thought you might be to justify your reasoning. Maybe fitness coach? Professional personal trainer?? Nutritionist?