To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

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Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

It’ll be worrying when she starts talking like him:

”Life is tough, pilgrim - it’s even tougher if you’re stupid.”

Id be fuming, she was being an asshole

So why would a colleague need to laugh about it/your clothes size and say they'd fit her parent?

We're all missing something, specially missing the OP
Maybe she's gone off to look for her coat

Pimple bum I kind of would like to agree with you we should not need to be embarrassed but I have large feet and hands and have gone through life with people looking down their nose at me and saying things like “ I bet you can’t get nice shoes with feet that size” or “ wow how did you get a ladies ring to fit your finger?”. My daughter is very tall and pretty much everyday someone says to her to her “ wow you are tall, what is the weather like up there”. Ditto a friend who is short is asked if she bought her outfit in the childrens department.

So you should be ok being publicly ridiculed & humiliated for it then?

You're so sure of yourself, yet so wrong.

I'm a size 14 at healthy BMI, and I'm tall but not 6' or over. Size 12 and people start commenting on how skinny I'm looking - but I'd still buy a 14 coat for shoulder room and arm length.

You might be right that it's 'likely' or 'common' for size 14 to be in the overweight range, but stop trying to invent details that just aren't true.

That does sound very rude and I'd have been embarrassed too.

Stes a bitch! I want to smack her for you!

Honestly you’re lying or an unusual exception. And if you are a healthy bmi I suggest checking your waist ratio because the dimensions of a size 14 put you at increased risk of weight related health issues. It is true. Whether you or others like it or not.

Yeah she was rude as fuck.

She sounds nasty.

What business was it of the colleague?

Your follow up comment makes me think, yes she’s really nasty. That comment made to embarrass and/or hurt.

I'm a size 16, and my BMI hovers between 24.5 and 25, so at size14 I would most definitely not be overweight. I'm not 6ft2 either.

No, YOU are lying and YOU don't know what you're talking about.

Go and look at the size chart for Cos - I picked that brand at random as an example. Size 14 is 80cm waist. General health advice is that your waist should be less than half your height, 160cm is 5'3. So, even if you're thick rigid enough to think that people choose a size solely on their waist measurement, you're still wrong, by a LOT.

Wrong.
Lying.
And wrong.

Can you please shut up now?

Maybe her mum struggles to find nice coats to fit and when she saw a nice coat in her mums size she said 'ooh size 22 that'd fit my mum' without thinking it could be taken the wrong way. Not everyone would think being a size 22 was something to be embarrassed about.

I wouldn't be very happy, mostly because of the 2nd part of the comment- I would be tempted to say to her that maybe she should not being so judgemental in public if she doesn't want people to dislike her, being famed for putting your foot in your mouth doesn't really excuse anything, she should have learned this over time- and it is possible that she promotes herself as being someone who often makes inappropriate comment by accident because she likes doing it and won't learn because she doesn't want to.

I was more bothered when at my busy hairdressers one of the young trainees picked up my coat from their cloakroom to give to another woman same size and height as myself.
She pulled a face and said “ oh no that’s not mine 😟 yes mine is a green warm quilted coat but not that one ugh “
The trainee apologised and got this customer her far superior coat for her 🙄

Do you know the easiest way to stop a person engaging in a discussion with you? Stop engaging with them.

you can keep on all you want but you are not going to change my view. 14 is large. It is almost always overweight. And is not reflective of a healthy body shape. And so what? Why are you on the the thread of a size 22 woman screaming with horror at the suggestion of being large? It’s weird.

I am also a 22 and I would have been mortified if someone made that comment to me. However they probably don’t see anything wrong it what they have said.

You're free to believe anything you like and post about it a dozen times or more in a thread that has nothing to do with the actual topic you're discussing.

But when you lie, and spout factually incorrect information and generally act like a gobshite, people will respond, especially if they're personally affected by what you wrote, i.e. you call them a liar and insist they're unhealthy.

I'm happy to leave the debate alone now because your lies and misinformation have been exposed and you had no comeback other than to retreat to 'well I believe it and you can't change my mind'. People can see you for what you are now..

Only I haven’t lied. What I said is that a size 14 is large. That’s an opinion and you cannot tell me I’m wrong.

I also said most people who are that size are generally overweight and at risk of weight related health conditions. That is a fact.

Unless you work in an office where everyone is blind I can’t see what difference it’s made to anything.

My lovely DD is a nurse and she cuts all labels out of her clothes , including underwear and coats , in case she gets run over and is taken to hospital.😂. She would hate it if her colleagues had to undress her and saw her sizing !
She has been doing this for about 20 years and has only been admitted to her hospital once and that was with Covid and she was glad her clothes were label free .

I’m going to be the one to say it.. if people are so embarrassed about their size then why not do something about it? Yes there is absolutely no reason for another person to comment on anyone else’s size, but if something like people knowing size bothers you there’s only one person who can fix that.