To think this daily essential should come out of joint money?

[Tropicalturnip]

Very trivial really but I need a vent as I surely don't think I WU!

Stocked up on deodorant the other day as the one I usually get is on offer. Also bought a fairly basic £7 face moisturiser because mine ran out ages ago and I've just been using the kids body lotion.

Anyway, DH checked the receipt today as it seemed an expensive shop and was peeved I'd spent on "a few personal items!" (For context it came to £19 and the shop was just short of £60).

We have separate accounts and a joint account for bills, kids, shopping and joint expenses. Our own spend comes from our own account, but we both tend to spend on the kids or the odd thing jointly from our own accounts from time to time too.

I have always included basic essentials including all toiletries on the big shop, never been an issue.

DH buys his deodorant from an independent shop online that is quite expensive but pays out of his personal account. Also money is a historical point of contention because he contributes more due to being the higher earner, so I think this has riled me up way more than it should!!

IABU pay for your own deo and moisturiser
IANBU it's a basic essential and should be included in the normal supermarket shopping

My ex was like this, he would pay for the weekly food shop and ask for money back for my tampons

I have no words @skintasabint

Glad he's an ex

I have dry skin and I am prone to eczema on my face, so for me personally it is essential. If I don't moisturise my face my skin is very dry and feels hot and tight.

For some people I realise this isn't the case so not essential. Either way it wasn't fancy, it was a £7 "Simple" brand pot of face moisturiser. Because no perfume etc.

The kids aveeno costs more than this but does the same job, so I suppose I could keep using that with no issue. So technically having my own, separate face cream isn't essential!

Unless I'm away for the weekend or something 😂

For the most part our set up with separate accounts works well and I don't feel hard done by, I am happy with what I have to spend on myself, and actually wonder if I'd have to spend less if we put it all in a pot 😂 however there are times I think it would be a lot easier.

I do agree that your husband was in the wrong to question it, and until you mentioned it just then I was unaware of your medical condition.

My post was in response to a poster who rolled their eyes at my post because apparently it implied that I didn’t question the fact that your husband was wrong to question your spending. It didn’t imply anything. Hence my post, and me clarifying that actually your husband wasn’t right to question your spend.

Of course a moisturiser is an essential in your case, but in mine it isn’t! They also said “who doesn’t moisturise their face.” Well I don’t often, I don’t get chance for self care because my son has significant needs. I get enough time for a shower or a bath and that’s about it!