To think that people who say “kids are a blessing” just don’t want to admit they regret it?

[ByBluntBiscuit]

The louder someone insists that parenting is the greatest joy, the more exhausted and dead behind the eyes they look.

For me, an achievement is something that has required significant endeavour fpe a desired outcome. Often with sacrifices along the way to reach the end. I would definitely count raising my children as one of my achievements. I work with children and can see first hand the absolute heartache and trauma caused when parents do not take their parenting seriously. I'm not just talking about abusive behaviour here. Although no parent is perfect and we all make mistakes, I don't think it is helpful to underestimate the impact that happy, secure, well loved children with healthy boundaries has on society. My children aren't all grown yet, and they're certainly not perfect, but I do consider raising them to be one of my achievements. I don't think I particularly gonkn about them to other people or expect others to find them as interesting as I do, but they are a blessing to me even though at times it has been very hard.

I think people have different opinions.
most people (including myself) think children are a blessing.
it’s a bit sad that someone would choose (mostly) to bring a child into the world and not think they’re a blessing - is not the child’s fault they’ve been born.
children are so dependent on their parents for so many of their early years and we really do shape them. Surely treating a child like a blessing is the best thing for them so they know how loved they are?

Exactly, raising lovely human beings is one of the best achievements. It takes daily effort for years and years, which is a hell of a lot longer than most achievements

I am always surprised on a parenting forum how many people say they regret their kids and wish they hadn't had them but each to their own.We are all different.

I do however get irked by this assumption that those of us who feel the opposite must be lying somehow.
I suppose it suits their narrative to believe that . Perhaps it helps them feel better. Who knows. But I can only say I have 5 and 3 have additional needs so life has often been challenging but as for regrets I don't have a single one and have loved every minute of parenting.

If someone hasn’t already, let me direct you to a near identical thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5354012-to-think-a-lot-of-people-regret-having-kids-but-are-too-ashamed-to-say-it?page=1

Most odd.
Not sure whether if OP is the same on both or they have had a conversation with each other IRL and have now both started a thread on it.

My kids ARE a blessing, I love the bones off them, and have zero regrets.

As I said on the other thread, if I had to make the choice again, I would definitely have children again, at the same age, with the same man and would have the same DCs.

This a thread from March that someone has resurrected..