To think that people who say “kids are a blessing” just don’t want to admit they regret it?

[ByBluntBiscuit]

The louder someone insists that parenting is the greatest joy, the more exhausted and dead behind the eyes they look.

Do you have kids OP?

The same applies to everyone no? Anyone who makes a big decision sometimes feels compelled to defend it and you can choose whether or not to believe them.

More than one thing can be true at the same time.

My kids are the greatest gift, they have completed my soul and honestly I feel that they give my life purpose and I understand unconditional love. I couldn’t imagine a world not having them.

I am also often very tired and overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean that for one second I regret having my kids.

I’m not voting by mine really are my biggest blessing and I don’t look dead behind the eyes 😂
They’re Brilliant company, kind, funny, generous with their time, love and thoughts, bright and witty. What’s not to love?!
I can’t speak for anyone else, not everyone loves being a parent but I threw myself into it and have got so much out of it. No regrets here.

To think that people who say “kids are a blessing” just don’t want to admit they regret it?

No? Many people think this, what’s wrong with feeling like kids are a blessing?

What a strange post!

Obviously for some people having kids is not what they expected and they regret it.

But I think in general most people would say they don't regret having kids, even when it is really difficult.

There were times when my kids were little that I probably looked exhausted, but actually was loving it. (while still craving a decent nights sleep)
The two can go hand in hand.

My daughter has bought me nothing but joy. I went through five cycles of IVF to have her and since she arrived family life has been everything we dreamed it would be.

I feel so sad for for parents who think like this and go on about how kids ruin your life.

It’s a bit like saying people who say they love their parents or siblings or husband must be lying. So no @ByBluntBiscuit I think they probably get enormous happiness from their children.

My kids are a blessing and I don’t regret them? What a weird thread. You sound like you need help

Yes, most big decisions have pros and cons. Marriage, kids, emigration, career changes. All of them.
My child free friends also look exhausted sometimes.

My children are by far the best thing that ever happened in my life. They are the greatest blessing and greatest joy. Sure parenting at times can be hard work but this does not take away from the huge blessing there are.

I’d imagine it’s rare to regret having your kids. For me they are exhausting and all consuming but I don’t regret them for a minute. I do feel like they have completed my life, or at least given it greater meaning. Before I had kids I thought they might ruin my life.

Another anti children thread. It’s very strange on a parenting site that so many pop up and they’re getting more common, along with the pro smacking children threads.

Is that how you feel OP, about being a parent? It can be very tough.

I don’t think it’s helpful to project your feelings all over others though.

Personally I am quite reserved and keep my tender feelings for my kids to myself and DH. I never post on SM about them or talk about them too much. I am not into that.

No regrets at all, ever, for a single minute.
It's the best thing that has happened to DH and I, by far.

Yawn

My mum can never understand why people say the thing they are proudest of are their children. She has asked me why people say this with genuine curiosity and no sense of what a weird thing to ask your child. She did not view her children in a way I think most people do. She wasn't/isn't a great parent due to a shocking upbringing which she can't/won't recognise as damaging. Is that where you are coming from OP - you find parenting hard and your kids are not a blessing to you so you cannot see that other people may think differently?

I’m really grateful for my kids. I’m absolutely more happy that I’ve had them than not. That doesn’t at all mean that every moment with them is sheer joy. No relationship is like that. I wouldn’t really use the term ‘blessing’ because that sounds wanky and I just don’t speak like that.

But I certainly feel very lucky to have them. I was diagnosed with cancer last year and truly the only thing I care about is not dying and leaving my kids. Don’t care if it means I’m permanently disfigured (I am), don’t care if it means work is more challenging, don’t care how horrific the treatment is (it’s been pretty bad), literally all that doesn’t matter, I just didn’t want to die and leave my kids. It’s driven home actually how important they are to me, which is a funny thing to suddenly realise.

What makes you think that? Do you have kids yourself? I truly adore mine and always have.

Another OP lighting the touchpaper. Clearly a dull day in their office 🙄

AIBU to assume the OP is a dogtanian and fully believes a dog can take the place of a child 😆

I think the demographic here is changing, there’s less humour than there used to be too.

How ridiculous!

You sound incredibly bitter.

Mine are all adults and they have always been a blessing.

Of course not everyone has the same experience but to accuse those who have joyful relationships of lying and being dead behind the eyes is pathetic.

Weird, but it does seem to be fashionable to hate your dc. Don’t get me wrong, my dc can be hugely frustrating but they make me laugh so much and give the best hugs. Mine are 13-17 and they enrich my life and give purpose. I love watching them grow and develop into young ladies. I also work ft.