DSS pulling out of looking Ddog last minute

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DH and I are due to go away this weekend, everything is booked and it's for a special event.
We asked DSS if he would mind looking after Ddog (our family dog, a dog he was very much part of the decision when she joined our family) it's the night before and DSS hadn't arrived as planned, due to course work. AIBU to not understand why he can't come as planned, do his work here? I'm now anxious at leaving tomorrow in case he doesn't bother coming to look after Ddog. I just can't understand the logic, apparently he'll come down tomorrow afternoon once we've gone. But it's just not sitting right with me....

This, is he not following the mn rule of 'if someone asks you to them a favour, it's that, you're not at their beck and call'?

He's probably quite aware of the distrust his SM has in him!

OP, did you go after all?

That’s good

you met her. So now she can stay tonight -Saturday

dog will have 2 people go love and care for them

yes I get it’s weird not meeting someone partner yet then stay

in the end you either trust your step son or you don’t

if you don’t why did you ask him

anyway as I said you met gf last night so assume you are away having fun and dog is spoilt by 2 people

So he turned up in time for you to leave as planned?

So all the drama was for nothing?

He’s only 17 and yet you’re sick of him spending years taking the piss.
Ask his father to speak to him to establish he’s committed to coming and for goodness sake allow him to bring his girlfriend.

Great, now let her stay.

No we didn’t meet her. We were meant to leave in the morning. We left late afternoon, he turned up at 6pm - we lost a day and after specifically being asked is anyone staying at the house with you, which the response was no. He went back out and brought her over at 7.

So if you had left in am. Dog would have been alone till 6pm so all day

is that why you left later ?

Yes - we were meant to have a day here, but we had to delay. Eventually we left, knowing we might have to drive back if he didn’t show.

Yes - we were meant to have a day here, but we had to delay. Eventually we left, knowing we might have to drive back if he didn’t show.
You are relentless, it's easy to see why DS drops plan's to meet up at the last minute.
You're draining me with the negativity in your posts, poor chap.

You could always go on holiday with just your Ddog instead. You'd be happier together I am sure. I always find it so hard to leave Dfish, Dcat and Dchickens but fortunately I pay for someone to come in and look after them when we go on holiday... Don't even mention the ESM.

A 17 year old is not reliable. Get a dog-sitter, OP. They can also take Ddog for walks when you are both working etc.

'When we go away normally we get house sitters (organised by me), '

and the above is what you will continue to do in the future.

You sound a little churlish. Be grateful and thank them enthusiastically!

Why should they? He lied to them!

Well, that’s what you get for relying on a 17 year old instead of paying for a professional dog sitter.

You won’t get much sympathy here - you’ve said multiple times he’s not reliable yet you both chose to rely on him anyway. More fool you for ruining your own weekend away 🙄

I’d be doing sweet Fanny adams for him going forward.
Zilch.

I say this with kindness but why did you ask him to do this? Are there really no suitable kennel/home from home alternatives?

I have two DSDs. One who has stayed at our house whilst we were away to look after our dog, she borrowed my car, she could bring her friends over, without issue, because she is reliable and more mature than her older sister. Older sister is wonderful but, like your DSS, is likely to change plans, be unreliable or damage something. Not maliciously but she's a bit immature and a bit careless. It wouldn't occur to me to risk straining our relationship by asking her to do something I know she isn't ready for.

Thank him for turning up a day late and bringing someone over after saying he wouldn't?

If you had left in the morning as planned & told him that that was what you had done, do you think he would have turned up earlier?

Did he know that you had delayed leaving?

It really sounds as if he wanted to avoid you!

Well lesson learned I guess-from all sides!

Have to say, I always think this but then the terms 'fur baby or pet parent' make my teeth itch as well 😅

@Puzzledandpissedoff
Agreed!

@Grammarnut. This is what I would do.

I wouldn’t trust him to walk the dog or look after him properly. I’m sorry but I actually wouldn’t be going.