New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

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I've started seeing someone. He told me yesterday that he doesn't like dining out. Ever.

He would rather I cook or he cooks and if the relationship continues will apparently never go out for brunch or lunch or dinner with me.

I could of course dine out with friends without him. He would not come for example to any meal with friends he was invited to.

His reason is he is vegan and he says he doesn't trust chefs not to contaminate his food.

I honestly feel like saying I cannot see this relationship going anywhere.

This is a new boyfriend you say? Wow, he sounds like a complete catch 😏

I'd try and swerve if I were you...

Sorry hasn't read all of thread!

Won't dine out skinny black clothes only cold tofu sandwich filthy unhygienic kitchen man.

I have a perverse desire to know more.

Me neither. Tofu is revolting.

Bin him off

And so is Fosters.....so revolting squared!

What a boring bloke.

Some people have nothing to worry about.

To be fair my son ordered a vegetarian mushroom risotto in a pub last year and when it came he wasn't eating it so I asked what was wrong with it, he said it's meat. I told the barmaid, she dismissed our concerns and said it's definitely mushrooms, they're just meaty ones. He tried another little bit and insisted it was meat so I had a look and it was not mushrooms. I took the plate and showed the barmaid, she took it out the back to show the chef, came back five minutes later, Sorry that was actually beef, he read the order wrong 🙄

Op, the more you say the more I suspect Sandgroper is onto something.

No.

Dump him.

It's you not him. You want a normal life.

Won't dine out skinny black clothes only cold tofu sandwich filthy unhygienic kitchen man. I have a perverse desire to know more.

Absolutely. What happened when you told him about the Foster's and asked him about going to a vegan restaurant?

And his good points are?

Never mind the disinterest in doing anything fun, only black clothes, weird restaurant hang ups and restrictive diet...... the tofu sandwich in a hotel room would have immediately killed it for me. This sounds tedious and completely joyless. It will become a source of constant frustration for you.

@PyongyangKipperbang I am not suggesting that OP should be looking for management techniques but just to bring clarity to her thinking, that’s all.

Then she can make a more informed decision (rather than listening to the Mumsnet hive mind all saying one thing and one thing only). My own opinion is firmly with the hive mind.

Are you vegan

I went to a wedding if two fun-living vegans. The whole buffet was vegan and so blimming good! I always think food where something isn’t there is always made so much more tastier with all the extras meat-eaters, say, don’t focus on. They had a HUGE spice rack!

I have serious allergies and I never eat out due to incidents exactly like that.

Yeah vegetables can taste nice...

I've got the ick on your behalf, any one of the things you've raised about him would be enough for me. A lot of it could be explained by being broke/stingy but not all of it.

I wouldn't bother giving him a reason for ending it, just tell him you're not compatible and send him on his way. If you specify the dining out thing and he backs down, you're stuck with someone who's a knobhead in every other way.

I'm no relationship expert but isn't going out with a new partner meant to be, well, fun? Where's the fun in this?

Throw this one back. You'll never go on holiday, no family do's, no visiting friends, presumably no meat eating pets and God knows what would happen if you had kids.

Make today the day you set your status back to single.

You can take your own food to places or self cater. Don't be dramatic

He could quite easily get something like a vegan curry whilst out; he doesn't sound like a barrowful of laughs

Did you not read the thread, or at least the OP's updates? Or do you just have really low standards?

-Doesn't eat out*, go to the cinema, go on holiday, go to the beach, drive, do pub quizzes.
-Overly paranoid yet fake vegan.
-Filthy kitchen.
-Eats cold tofu sandwiches and drinks Fosters (and I say this as an Australian who loves tofu).

*Dinner companionship being OP's main reason for wanting to date.

Sounds like a right twat and this a recipe for misery. Definitely time to say bye bye. He can go and inflict his joylessness on someone else. I don't mind people being vegan but don't expect to inflict it on me.

He's still going to eat when he goes out