Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

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Would really appreciate people’s opinions on this, thank you

Yes.

I'm not interested in banning anyone from anything. I was asked my opinion on big age gap sex. I gave it. And it's the advice I give my own children about sex regardless of age. Really simply, if you don't want to have a baby, if you don't want to co-parent, if you don't want to be stuck with this person forever, if you don't want to pay child maintenance, if you don't want to be stuck on your own with a child, then the only way to guarantee that is to not have sex with that person. If you're willing to take the risk then you need to be willing to face the consequences (none of which are as a casual or fun or exciting as the shag). If more people spent more time considering who they shagged there would be considerably less damaged children in the world.

You gave an opinion but you became unravelled when challenged and you chop and change about what your opinion is about. Its about pure judgement and discomfort with a different lifestyle to yours.

I notice you have since moved on to 'wont somebody think of the children'

Its ok, just own it. But you're not the moral arbiter of grown adults.

I have been consistent with my argument and point from the very beginning.

No i don't think a 26 year old mother of two should have "casual sex" with an 18 year old. I don't think 18 year olds are old enough to deal with the consequences of casual sex. I don't think "casual sex" exists. I think sexual relationships are still relationships and sometimes they get messy. If you look at all of my posts I've been thinking about the "poor children" all along because I see the damage caused by emotionally immature parents on a daily basis. I am more than happy to own my discomfort with that.

We disagree on the fundamentals. That's ok. You do you.

I came to say yes, then stopped and thought about the fact DH & I met when I was 19 he was 27. We are still married 20 + years later so in hindsight shouldn’t judge.

I do have an 18 year old DS now though and wouldn’t like the situation.

Thinking about it, in my misspent youth, which is a very long time ago, well 40 years ago when i was 19 I had an off/ on fling with a bloke who was 27. Both of us single and no children. It went on for a few years.
I still see him around town and have a chat when I bump into him. He was a nice bloke then and still is.

I had a fling when I was 25 with a much younger bloke.He is in his 50s now,still pleasant looking and has a great personality. He ended up marrying one of my friends eleven years later and they are a great couple.

None of us have suffered any psychological damage, no abuse of power. No problem!😊

I'm 26 and wouldn't even consider it. I work with an 18 year old and can't even fathom the idea of sleeping with one.

My husband is 5 years younger than me. We met when he was 18 and a half, on my 23rd birthday. Been together 14 years and married for 10. I say do whatever makes you happy, especially given that you’ve no intention of introducing him to your kids. My husbands farming born and bred and (was) an old head on young shoulders. No one ever guessed our age gap.

Both adults. As long as the young woman doesn't fall madly in love and start being possessive, he is having the time of his life.

I know a guy who married a girl in her twenties, when he was eighteen. Nobody batted an eyelid. They are still together with adult children and grandchildren.

None of our or your business.
Why should you be interested?

Yes

Go for it. Both consenting, both adults, both having fun. No one said she needs to get married to him ffs...

Yes I would, makes me feel a bit sick to be honest . They are a teenager