Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

[PinkieToeZ]

Would really appreciate people’s opinions on this, thank you

There is. If he started developing “feelings” you’d bin him. If you got pregnant despite rigorous contraception you’d have a termination. These things are completely controllable.

Gross, you have 2 young children yourself and lusting after a barely adult. Do better.

And that’s exactly what I’d do if either of those things occurred when having casual sex with anyone. All the things mentioned by Auldy are completely manageable.

@ConnieSlow show me where I’m lusting after anyone and I’ll send you £100

Neither of those things can be described as "casual".

As a 28 year old mum of 5! I think it's disgusting,in my eyes he's a child!

But certainly not 18 year old boys.
An 18 year old is an adult, not a boy.
Usually on mumsnet if an adult is referred to as a ' girl' or less often ' a boy' people tend to lose their minds and be outraged as you can't be a boy or girl and an adult!! People get really offended by that.
So at 18 is he an adult or a boy?
Personally, I think if he is 18 and he can fo all the legal stuff he must be an adult. Sure 18 year olds still have some maturing to until the end adolescence at around 25, but 18 is still an adult.
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Only just an adult.

Absolutely! However an 18 year old would not be told he is only just an adult if he went to a pub or went to vote.

Although I don’t have a stong opinion about this scenario and doesn't make any difference to me as my lads are mid 20s I would rather my lad at 18,have a casual, easy thing with someone few years older than be on the front line at war, which they can be ' when they are only just an adult' at 18.

I don’t think the OP had an intellectual or emotional interest in him! That is not what this is about.

Ew, gross, yes I would.

She may not have an intellectual or emotional interest in him but that doesn't mean that he doesn't or won't have an intellectual or emotional interest in her. Particularly given he is very likely to be much more inexperienced in terms of relationships.

What is this age related power that you speak of? Sounds like some kind of voodoo.

@altmember I can only assume this is some kind of sick joke.

@PinkieToeZ Yeah I agree you’re getting a hard time for the wrong reasons. I’m relieved to hear that you think it is icky!

As a Mom, if it was my son I would be pretty worried about him.

When their kids hit 18, maybe some of those telling you it’s fine will see it differently!

It’s not a relationship. Do you really not understand this?

When their kids hit 18, maybe some of those telling you it’s fine will see it differently!

Mine’s well past 18. 🤷‍♀️

Dont know

She might have had her kids at 18 for all anyone knows and was she emotionally ready? But in any case its just sex (according to OP). Just sex, friends with benefits. So its rather irrelevant whether he wants to become a father

Whats that got to do with the age of the partner

People can and will judge....including other 18 year old lads.

I can imagine his mates having a good laugh with the one who got lucky for a night....I would hate to be that woman providing the laughs.

@blossomtoes and you would have been fine with this when they were only 18…. I wouldn’t. I think it’s gross.

It honestly wouldn’t have bothered me @Sadtosaythis. But I’ve always believed age is just a number and other people’s sex lives are none of my business - even if I gave birth to them.

Literally wouldn't give a shit. What other people get up to is none of my business. Live and let live.

Do you really not understand that a sexual relationship is still a relationship? Do you really not understand that people can enter into purely sexual relationships but then catch feelings and that people in purely sexual relationships can still be hurt? Do you really not understand that a young person entering the world of sexual relationships may not have the maturity to deal with this as well as more experienced shaggers?

I didn't want to be a parent when I was 18. I certainly wouldn't have wanted the father of my children to be 18. And I wouldn't want my 18 year old son to be be co-parenting with a women who has two other kids. Co-parenting is messy and stressful and fraught with challenges. Most 18 year olds are ill-equipped to deal with it - emotionally, practically or financially.

@blossomtoes At 18 I would still feel the need to protect them. Age is definitely just not a number!

This thread is really concerning in terms of how many people are fine with this!

They could get hurt regardless of the age gap though, if they’re not mature enough to deal with that they shouldn’t be having sexual relationships full stop imo

Ok so ban 18 year olds from sex then, put chastity belts on them, thats the only way you'll prevent these teen tiny children from having children of their own.

Thats life, we go through life, we meet people, we grow up, we dont grow up, we have experiences, we dont have experiences. We have good experiences and bad experiences, its part of life

The very young boy of 18 could get himself a very young girl of 18 as a girlfriend.

What to do then eh?