Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

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Would really appreciate people’s opinions on this, thank you

Not sure what having 2 kids has got to do with anything but I would judge anyone (man or woman) who is 26 and sleeping with an 18 year old. Fucking grim.

No, they’re both adults.

Absolutely I would. Not an appropriate relationship.

After the childhood I had I have every right to judge. Did you miss the part where he was awful to me? My children were definitely not encouraged to view them in any way. They formed their own opinions as they got older (22, 18, 15 and 13).

Id just wonder why she set her sights so low. 18 year old boys don't even have their full brains yet!

No, both are adults.

No. Why?

Yes

I couldn't imagine finding any man younger than me attractive at any age.

I wouldn't have looked at an 18 year old even when I was 19.

I'd raise an eyebrow, but we need more info, is he/she vulnerable, how did they meet, has he been introduced to the kids?

I would imagine the 18 year old hasnt got a lot in common with a woman who is a parent of 2, but I wouldnt judge negatively, I dont think its 'inappropriate' (MN favourite phrase), I dont think its 'ew' (or whatever childish sound others might make)

I would imagine its about sex for the both of them and they're both consenting adults unless theres a back story where one or both of them has LD or something

Nor me, it sickens me because of my childhood

I dated an 18 year old for a bit when I was 25, so not inherently (and yes it ended because of the age gap).

I think an actual relationship with an older woman with two kids would be problematic for an 18 year old. Casual sex not such a big deal.

Tbh Yeah

I'd assume she had terrible terrible judgement and I'd pity the kids who are going to have to live her numerous and various (probably poor) life choices

Yes. They are barely an adult.

Depends where they meet.

In a nightclub... its not that wierd. Both young adults

If she was working at his Sixth form college... wierd.

Depends on the people. Some 18 yr old could be very venerable

Vulnerable or venerable? Complete opposites.

I had a fling with an 18 year old when I was 23. I had just finished uni and he had finished college so we were both starting out in our careers (he wasn't going to uni) so although there was an age gap we were kind of at the same stage in our lives.

It didn't seem particularly weird to me and I don't think the extra three years makes a huge difference, but I wonder what they would have in common when one is a mother of two and presumably in a different place in their life with different priorities.

Yes.

Yes, the age gap is far too big at that young age.

Curious to know why you're asking OP?

Yea I would judge and disapprove because at 18, to me, you are very young and not mature enough to be ina relationship with someone of that age. Saying that, a very close female relative of mine started dating someone who was 34 when she was 19. They are still together. I didn’t think it was right for her then and I still don’t. He is 40 next year and she will be 25. He was in a position of power in her work place and I would say it was grooming IMO. I think it’s icky and not right. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but it doesn’t sit right with me.

Yes. I would be livid (and concerned if it was my son) the age gap is bad enough but 2 kids as well?!

Yes I would judge.

No. I have no interest at all in what other folk are doing when it's clearly none of my business.