Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

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Would really appreciate people’s opinions on this, thank you

Urg yes. Why are they even moving in the same circles?

Yes. Agree, why is a 26 year old parent even in the same circle as an 18 year old?

Damn right I would .

Yes. It's a massive age gap when one person is 18.

Yes

Grim.

Yes, that's gross (the age difference, not the fact that she's a mum)

Yes, 18 is too young.

I bet he had a whale of a time and would disagree with all of you. 😂

Yes

Yes. I would judge any 26 year old, male or female, who slept with an 18 year old.

Yes I would, in the same way I'd judge a 26 year old man sleeping with an 18 yo. I was that age and 'dating' a 31 year old for a brief period, thought he was cool at the time, he was a creep. Most 26 year old women especially those with children so having to live a more adult life have nothing in common with 18 year old boys.
At 26 I was still out every weekend, or jumping on a flight with a day or two notice because a cheap deal came up, no DC, no real responsibility other than work. I wouldn't have looked twice at an 18 year old.

I don’t know if ‘judge’ is the right word, but without knowing either of them I do get an ‘ew’ response.
I remember being 24 in a club and feeling weird when I found out the guy I’d kissed was 19. The maturity gap is so much larger when you’re young.

An 8 year age gap between 28 and 36 doesn’t give me the same response. But 18 and 26 is a bit yucky to me, yes.

Yes

No. They're consenting adults.

Yeah girl, it's messy x

Yes.
There is a huge gap between them due to difference in age and their life stages.

Disgusting. My own mother moved her 17yr old boyfriend in when she was 35. It has always sickened and embarrassed me. I was six, my sister 11 and my brother (his friend) was also 17. It ruined my brother's relationship with my mother and he was horrible to me. They are still together now and I'm 40. My own children find it wrong and they don't have a relationship with my mother because of it.

18 and 26 is imo toobig an age gap because of the 18 year old not because 8 years is itself too big.

There's 9 years between me and my husband.

24 and 33 when we married.

51 and 60 now.
Tiny gap and meaningless.

But if we'd got together when I was 18 and he was 27? Creepy.

17 and 26?
16 and 25?

The age gap is the same but there's a point at which it becomes inappropriate and imo that point is when the younger one is a teenager.

No. Both adults

They’ve been together for 34 years and not only are you still judging them but you’ve encouraged your children to do the same? It’s about time you got over it, don’t you think?

I actually think it depends on the people. She could be a vulnerable 26 year old, while he might be a manipulative 18 year old who sees an easy way to get laid. We don't know. Hard to judge this one.

I certainly wouldn't judge the fact she was 26 with 2 kids. That's a perfectly normal age to have had 2 children by. (Except for Mumsnet where everyone is 42+)

I wouldn't think sleeping with an 18yr old was very...wise. no.

But actually it's not perverse. It's legal. He's not 16. He's an adult. Hardly a child (once again most of Mumsnet thinks their children are babies until they're 28)

I get vibes that you think she's a chav basically. We're allowed to slate those types on Mumsnet!

I'd keep your nose out to be honest unless there's a massive back story.

If a poster came on and said her ex in his late 30s was snagging their daughters 17yo friend, would you be so supportive of him?

No.