Is this rude if you were a guest?

[Britishsummertime22]

If you were a guest in someone's house and they went up to bed without saying goodnight or telling you they were going to bed/not coming back downstairs would you think that was rude?

This is honestly so baffling, I genuinely can't imagine not saying good night! Really rude too. Is there a possibility they've had an argument between themselves and are now upstairs having a whisper row? Still bloody rude not to make their excuses and say good night first !

How do you know these people? Do you know them well? Very odd! People are strange though so don't take it to heart. I hope you have a peaceful night

Really? I think it would be an exceptionally nasty person who'd just ask a guest from hours away to leave, at night, for an unmentioned offence, so it doesn't follow.

I suspect they're just rude and weird.

Could they have had a row? One went up to bed, other went to check where they went and ended up having an argument hence not coming back down?

It is rude/odd but I would just go to bed and not worry. Ask what happened in the morning.

Maybe they were having a row themselves 🤷🏼‍♀️

Leave a note on the kitchen table saying you’ve turned out the lights and checked doors were locked, as you weren’t sure if they were coming back down.

It's a French exit. I'm guilty myself on quite a few occasions.

Unfortunately, despite that, it seems you’re not very welcome. There’s just no way this happens if you are.

You don’t necessarily need to go home, but I wouldn’t be able to stay, it’d be so horribly awkward.

Yes, and weird. Were you guys drinking or did they suddenly become ill

Why do you do this?

Was there anyone else there?

Against the grain, no I don't think it's rude. It's something I could imagine doing. Don't see what difference saying goodnight makes

I would leave now and wouldn't give a damn. Seriously, I'd drive home quite happily.

Well, you can take today as the day that you learnt it's rude.

They were probably just tired and ready for bed and didn't think anything of it! Some nights just peter out, I wouldn't overthink it

It's not deliberate! I went upstairs once, sat on the bed and fell asleep 😴
Occasionally be out in a group and just not want to be anymore so just leave rather than try and explain the unexplainable.

It doesn’t sound like anything you’ve done. I imagine they are just a bit thoughtless, maybe socially awkward and just tired. Hope it works out ok tomorrow.

Well, I think you might be the guest that never goes to sleep and they were tired. Do you get when people are making yawning noises and stuff that it’s time to go to bed. I’ve told guest to go to bed a million times. Some people just don’t know when to end things and as you were already sleeping there, they didn’t need to say anything else. GO TO SLEEP.

I would be worried that everything was locked/switched off properly in someone else's house. I hope you can say something tomorrow. Is one person your relative or closer friend?

Some people just don't want the whole goodnight thing, easier to just dip out and go to bed quietly. You'll see each other in the morning, no need for a tuck in, you're not 10

That is incredibly rude, and I'd feel so unwelcome and actually I'd consider going home

It's weird to wordlessly leave a room when a guest is staying and never come back. OP just sitting like a total lemon. Normal people say "well that's me turning in now" or something.

Honestly, Mumsnet is full of the weirdest responses to normal interactions. How do people navigate every day life? It's baffling.

That aside, I'm now more interested in the OP posting a few months ago about being childless and now posting she needed childcare 👀

Yes, eat all the snacks. Enjoy! Then leave very early in the morning without saying goodbye.

What's going on with posts like this? It's so out of the realms of normal adult behaviour to just disappear on your guests but yet people are defending it? Truly bizarre.