He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

@BIossomtoes

He bought food. 🤷‍♀️

Yes, he did a brilliant job, didn't he? What an absolute champ he is 👏🏻

I would be slightly annoyed. Definitely not furious. Would then go on Just Eat and order a bunch of stuff I wanted in the grocery section and have it delivered from the tesco.

Oh of course. Woman is ill so should shop online so healthy husband doesn’t have to make an effort or use his common sense. Crikey @Moonnstars

yanbu op. We don’t eat ready meals and crisps/chocolate are occasional treats not real food. Get well soon and then have a sit down chat about this with your other half and explain why you’re so upset.

Which the op has already said isn’t available where they are, and they don’t now have the budget to do so cause he blew it on crisps.

@Yourethebeerthief well, I have shared my opinion which I’m glad is in keeping with Mumsnet. Also, so pleased re all the men you know. That’s really lovely and great. As for those defending him, I think they’re probably just offering some perspective here. It’s shoddy behaviour but again, what more is there to say really.

The posters defending him are they type of women who take up with these shitty men when the wives have had enough of their shit.

He doesn’t fix the car.
He fills it with petrol for me on a Sunday. He checks the tyres, the water, the oil etc.
If it breaks down he arranges for the garage to come at tow it.

The husband couldn’t be arsed. He bought unhealthy food instead. It’s not the end of the world.

Only you wouldn't - he blew all the money they had on inedible crap, and they live in a village where same day (or even next day) food delivery is not an option.

It’s shoddy behaviour but again, what more is there to say really.

Well it wouldn't make for a very good forum would it?

OP: my husband is a twat and behaved like a twat
Poster: oh dear what a twat

The end. Close the thread.

I’m sure yours are too? But that’s not the point is it.

This is true.
It would be a waste of a perfectly good opportunity to belittle other women for not thinking it’s that big of a deal.

@TENSsion

He doesn’t fix the car.
He fill it with petrol for me on a Sunday. He checks the tires, the water, the oil etc.
If it breaks down he arranges for the garage to come at tow it.

I look upon this the same way as OP's husband being incapable of navigating a food shop. But at least your example only inconveniences yourself if you go without your car while your husband is too ill to fill it with petrol for you 🙄

The husband couldn’t be arsed. He bought unhealthy food instead. It’s not the end of the world.

No it's not literal end of days. He wasted £50 on shite that no one wants to eat then sulked. He's a lazy, selfish, manchild.

Missing the point much?

Why should she have to tell him how to feed their kids properly or save money? It’s a bit different going to the local shop if you need a couple of bits and aren’t driving. He had a car and could easily go to a Supermarket and get healthy fresh food for his children.

I would be upset too OP.

Yeah who gives a fuck that a woman isn't even allowed to be ill and rest without having to sort out her useless DHs shitty, selfish behaviour. He should be looking after her and the kids and cooking for them. Instead he buys chocolate and crisps. If that's your standards then crack on. Some of us here know we deserve far more than that.

They had crisps, sweets and chocolate for dinner because he was too lazy to do a proper shop and bought dogshit from the local expensive shop. You’d be happy with that would you?

I’m incensed that posters are making excuses for this shit heap of a man. He’s pathetic. She has flu. And he’s utterly failing.

You don’t seem know what the word “incapable” means.

of course, that is the point of a forum. But surely there’s better stuff to get our teeth into than this! The irony is, here I am still commenting. I know.. I know.

Like a ready meal, maybe? Which would be perfectly fine for a weekend. And clearly what he intended to feed them.

@TENSsion

If you don't think it's a big deal then you're free to say that and move on.

I think a lot of posters are far more concerned that women like the OP are belittled by lazy men into having to pick up all the slack even when they are ill.

I think this argument comes up time and time again - and its very valid: these guys all have jobs, they are capable adults in all other spheres of life - except, conveniently, in the area concerning their own family life. When it comes to running the house they are but little babes. How is it acceptable that the bloke has no idea what to get from a shop in order to feed his own kids? I find it shocking and quite gross.

And no, feeding children dodgy ready meals (like, have you ever tried these meals? seriously?)..., crisps and chocolate in any situation other than the end of the world is not acceptable, not even for one day. Nor spending the last £50 on it.

Alright calm down, who said he wasn’t looking after her all he done was pop to the corner shop 🤣🤣🤣

I’m more concerned by your vitriol towards women who wouldn’t be “furious” about this.

of course, that is the point of a forum. But surely there’s better stuff to get our teeth into than this! The irony is, here I am still commenting. I know.. I know.

Variety is the spice of life. People like to chat shit on internet forums. Balance it out by reading the Guardian and doing yoga tomorrow or something.

Also not my standards it’s not my post 🤣🤣🤣 he popped into a corner shop on the way home wooopie dooodaarrrr

@TENSsion

You don't have to be furious about it. He's still a lazy SOB.