He didn’t go to Tesco?

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I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Bit precious that your kids only eat branded food , have they eaten it ?

Crisps and chocolate on a Friday night sounds great !

hooe you feel better soon

You are being ridiculous. He did what you asked.

Didn’t mean branded like that… come on now..

It's only for a couple of days

I’d be pissed off too… surely everyone knows corner shops etc are not good value for money. YABU about the unbranded ready meals though… unless you mean you and your kids don’t like any ready meals and you usually cook from scratch then YANBU.

I would be furious too OP.

The waste of money and the lack of any care about the dc and their needs is shocking.
He sounds like a child himself: not competent to do a normal family orientated task and then turning it back on you is ridiculous.

Weaponised incompetence. He's using it, and when you're better I'd have a conversation about it. If he's intelligent enough to have a job, he's intelligent enough to know what food is needed. If he says he didn't know what the family eats, then he's either lying or he's so uninvolved in family life that I'd honestly question why he thinks that's acceptable.

Could you not do an online shop?

? well what do you mean by branded food?
I assume he got shepherds pie made by farmer joe bloggs foods rather than findus or Linda McCartney

I would be totally fed up with him spending money like that.When you are better tell him he needs to up his game and meal plan and go to Tesco he needs to practice .He sounds a bit useless.

Oh stop! The poor bloke went to the shop and got what he thought would be ok, he tried. The kids won't starve and you haven't had to go shopping. I don't see the problem.

My ASD child absolutely wouldn't eat unbranded but that obviously isn't the point. I would be annoyed too. Waste of money and not great food for you getting better or for the kids

He did it on purpose so you wouldn’t ask him again!

Can you do Tesco whoosh or delivery, he's obviously not used to shopping for the family

Weaponised incompetence. Absolute fool of a man.

Why? Why is it her job to wipe her husband's incompetent arse?

Can't he use his brain and go to a supermarket like a sensible person?

She. Is. Sick. If she could do an online shop she wouldn't have asked her husband to do a shop 🙄

Tell him he can eat the stuff he bought.

Perhaps get an online delivery of the food you want for you and the kids.

I'd be annoyed that he's chosen the quick and expensive option of buying convenience food rather than a more thought through proper grocery shop.

I'm with you OP. This stinks of a DH who is so far removed from the basics of running a household and is now sulking cos he's been called out on it.

When you're better it may be an idea to have a new division of labour for you both so that he steps up to the plate and acts like an adult that takes responsibility of running a home and family.

@pimplebum your first 2 sentences were unnecessary and shitty, and had the effect of making your third sentence seem passive aggressive and inauthentic.

He’s been a complete prick IMO, if you shop at Tesco normally then you would expect him to go somewhere on a similar level with similar products especially if it’s not out of the way. I get what you mean about ready meals, kids can be fussy and if they’re not familiar with something and aren’t likely to eat it then it’s a waste of money and he should realise that. And yeah chocolate and crisps are fine alongside food that is actually nutritious and edible to your family. It will have just been easier for him because 90% of them just do what’s easy for them at all times. I hope you feel better soon x

I cba with that incompetence, he sees what the family eats week in week out and then spends 50quid on stuff you don’t? As others have said it feels like it’s to avoid being asked again

If be annoyed to. Frozen ready meals are often horrid and my kids wouldn’t eat them either. Such a waste of money, it’d of been half the cost at Tesco and he could of got some greens. I feel like everyone knows the local corner shop is for emergencies and odd forgotten bits. Not a default grocery shop.

You asked him to shop he did. Let it go.
Presumably shopping for food us new to him? Why is this? Do you usually do it all ? Why?
From now make sure he takes equal responsibility for budgeting cooking g shopping etc

I knew what you meant. And I would definitely not have been impressed. However, I would probably have done a quick online shop.

I dont think its the end of the world for a weekend.

There are times when I finish work on a Friday that I genuinely can't be arsed in going to the big supermarket so I call at the garage and grab quick crappy meals instead of bother with a decent shop and then do a big shop on Sunday .

Again, why? Why is it her job to sort her husband's mess?

The point was for him to go it so she didn't have to.