He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Tell him to get eggs, cheese, few tins of baked beans and potatoes.

Stupid prat. Who thinks crisps and shit is a sensible meal for children? Even if he can’t bloody cook at least buy a pizza to throw in the oven and a cucumber and some tomatoes or whatever to chop up and serve on the side.
I’d be really pissed off op. You’re not in the wrong to not have done a tesco shop when you’re ill and the other adult in the house isn’t.
Poor kids, mine would have been chewing their own arms off if they didn’t get a proper dinner - to be fair, most people wouldn’t feel satisfied after snacks.

Jesus.

As a man I can categorically state he's a prick. I've been say in a pub with 4 big, tough, fight Tyson Fury right now right here, Dockers who have almost got to blows about the best way to cook a joint of gammon. I cook, my 2 nephews in law (one currently in the army)both do the majority of cooking.

He's done it deliberately so he never gets asked again. What sort of man doesn't step up for his wife and kids and buys them shit food?

If he had even got bread, eggs and cheese, he could have made toasties or egg on toast. Perfectly filling and nutritious.
Its not precious to not want to give your kids crisps for dinner.

Not sure as he went upstairs in a strop and has been hiding in the bedroom for the last 2 hours!And for those saying does he know how to do a food shop. We used to go shopping together pre-DC and now we get deliveries and a top up shop of bread/milk/fruit/veg as it doesn’t last (from Tesco or wherever) on fridays

Surely you could have done an order or ordered via uber eats groceries…

Well I've read this and he didn't do what he was asked and if I was the OP I'd be fucking furious

So he eats the crappy ready meals and stuff he bought 🤷‍♀️

Either you send him back out tomorrow, or tell him he needs to sort food for him the kids from what’s in. Presuming he is capable of cooking, even something basic?

if there’s anything specific you want send him out for it.

Should have gone to Iceland,

So you would be OK eating crappy ready meals, chocolate and crisps for a weekend? That's really grim

Yes I’d be annoyed to, it’s just stupid unthinking behaviour. I do all the cooking/shopping/food planning in my house, but if I’m not able to DH is entirely capable of buying and cooking a sensible meal. He’s go off things I usually buy, which he knows because he lives in the house, puts shopping away and eats our meals. Surely your DH knows what normal meals are in your home and that crisps and chocolate aren’t meals?

but you also say ‘he asked to go to the shops’, is this what you mean? Or did he just say ‘I’ll go get a food shop’?

But he's an adult though, right? Surely he should be able to get some decent food in for his kids without his wife there to tell him exactly what to buy?

The 'poor bloke' didn't try at all. He did the bare minimum that he thought he could get away with, and is now in a strop because the op rightly called him out on it.

I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

Well, you thought incorrectly - if you want him to go to a specific place, tell him that?

Absolutely. He's showing her not to ask him again because he's so incapable.

I'd tell him to eat the shit he brought and send him to TESCO. Unfortunately, he's such a dick he needs instructions and a shopping list. Maybe he needs directions to Tesco as well.

Do you know what? I think that when one parent is out of action and therefore the other parent has everything falling on their shoulders alone, it's OK to feed the kids ready meals and junky food for a couple of days.

("Unbranded" ready meals from the corner shop are going to be no worse than branded ready meals from Tesco).

YANBU. Stupid man. You presumably do the daily grind, don't you? Takeaway tomorrow if you feel upto it. He can pay. Hope you feel better soon.

Really low bar for men here. If a man told his wife to get food and she blew a tiny budget on chocolate , nobody would be on her side. Especially in a rural area with nothing else available.

Should have just ordered an online shop. You must know it's not his forte.
I wouldn't have been happy but I wouldn't have expected any better. Could do an online shop in the time you have spent posting this 😁

Gave him the shit unbranded meals to eat.

Unless he is actually only 7, he knows damn well that buying what you need from a small village shop is massively expensive and will limit what you buy due to their narrow stock.

So he's done this on purpose to be a dick, probably because you're ill and he feels miffed that he's got to actually adult/parent etc..

And anyone telling you this is your fault/what he's done is fine/that you're hard work etc is being a dick on purpose, whilst the kids might love choc and crisps for one evening, eating nothing but that all weekend would be pretty crap and result in everyone feeling a bit shit and a bit grumpy. Some people do like to be dicks here though. Such is life.

if I ask my dh to get something on his way home he will get it, but then also get ice creams, Milo, cho biscuits, white bread, chips ect. I don’t mind treats but not all at once.

Not his forte? He's an adult, no? My teen knows how to do a food shop, cook and serve it. This is a grown man.

Surely if she's well enough to post on MumsNet she can get an Uber Eats delivery from a supermarket 🤷🏻‍♂️