He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Quite right. It’s got nothing to do with ‘cool wives’ and everything to do with not making a mountain out of a molehill.
OP, eat the chocolate and have a laugh with him about it…because it’s funny.

Why should she, she is ill and there is another adult in the house.

It's international womens day tomorrow ffs

Oh give over 😂😂😂😂😂

What a strange woman.

Op has an onlibe shop booked for Sunday! A top up shop was all that was required ! Why should the ill parent have to be responsible for getting some basic shopping in?

I’m curious to know how often he does the food shop? And other household tasks? I can understand not being able to if it’s not something he does regularly/has done. This is why I insist my DH does a lot of the shopping, cleaning, washing chores because otherwise we as women end up lumbered because we can.

The poor bloke tried?
How old is he, nine? 🙄
I absolutely cannot stand men like this.
Happy to live in a completely different setup.

Useless men are not funny
Nobody will die if I forget how to do laundry or if I dont do it all.
But no man would stand for it.

Vague to a child maybe? An adult who knows what his household normally eats, it’s common sense.

This is the problem. Women finding it endearing. We all do it or have in the past but when you really look at it, it’s ridiculous that the other adult in the house can’t adult successfully because they have been brought up to believe it’s ok because women will do it. If a woman did this no one would laugh or find it endearing.

Why? It's hardly unreasonable to expect an adult man to be able go to a supermarket and get some sensible shopping in. Why is that OP's job?

I completely agree with PP who said weaponised incompetence.

Thank you, wondered where you were.

Whats flu got to do with it, doesn't the weekly delivery cover the week

On the assumption that the ops husband is an actual adult wtaf did I just read. Do a food shop. It's not even hard. Do not buy shit from the corner shop. Also obvious and not hard. Be an adult. Parent your family. Fml

Bloody hell. Stop infantalising men. A fully grown man should be capable of going to the shops and buying a substantial meal for his family. Not come home will pot noodles and other crap when asked to do so when their partner is ill.

Who do you think is a strange woman - me or the OP?
And why?
Please explain.

Is it the first time he has done a food shop? If so, why?

Sort of thing my DH would do thinking it’s a quick fix and “what does it matter?” Well it’d matter to me that he’s bought a load of crap that he MUST know we don’t usually have in the house. My blood would be boiling at the fact he must go round with his eyes shut and not give a shit that I might care. Thoughtless x

I personally think you should go upstairs and tear strips off him for going off in a sulk because you dare expect him to know how to feed his children not to mention being in any way caring towards his ill wife, and list what they’ve had for dinner. Highlight that the day you stop expecting him to be capable of basic parenting is the day you check out if the marriage because you are not going to accept being in a relationship with that level of pathetic and useless, so he should be bloody grateful you’re mad.

I know what you mean OP!

I’m not a brand snob by all means, I usually only shop in Aldi and Lidl for most things, Tesco/Asda if it’s pay day. But the weird food that tends to only be in corner shops and petrol stations is just icky.

I’d be so pissed off too OP. Presumably you do a proper shop and get your kids more to eat than crisps and chocolate and shite frozen meals (which we all know the crappy corner shop ones are, Tesco would have had nicer ones). So many people on here making excuses for a moron man.

In the grand scheme of things, it’s hardly the end of the world. Feel better soon ☺️

It's quite a lot to spend actually for not very much by the sounds of things. What was in the unbranded meals? Is it thing like shepherd's pie @purpleparroty?

wow your bar is low!

This isn’t a visiting family member doing OP a favour. This is the kids dad. Do you really think it’s acceptable that he’s so incompetent when it comes to his own family life??

Seriously, the attitudes on this thread are shocking. My primary school aged child would know broadly what to get in a food shop for a couple days, and that we wouldn't be filling a basket up with £50 of crisps and sweets.

Surely the person who did the online shop for the week is also incompetent, by that standard?