He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

@purpleparroty

See this sort of thing pisses me off.
He's meant to be the other functioning adult in the house and yet a basic task like tescos to get food in to feed everyone over the weekend isn't really that difficult is it

I see other posters saying you're unreasonable but I don't think you are.

I bet when he's ill you don't go to the corner shop and spend £50 on shit,you still do a good shop like normal.

Some men really forget how to adult at times

Oh definitely this. Life is too short. I actually found what your husband did a bit endearing. All will be fine. Take it easy.

I've only read one page, but am absolutely shocked that the divorce him squad aren't out yet, what's going on? It's even drink night.

He went shopping and bought stuff he likes and wanted. I’m guessing he thought everyone else would too.

Im guessing he doesn’t buy crap all the time as it sounds like he’s not used to shopping for the family
Maybe he needs to get used to that as well as cooking then he’ll know what to buy .
When you’re well and both back at work just share everything.

Lazy, immature sod. Sounds like a bloody teenager.

Surely he could manage to feed his kids decent food for a couple of days, while his wife is ill in bed?

There are thousands of single parents doing this every day for years on end. I'm really not sure why it's such a big deal for him.

Everybody fed, nobody dead.
YABU.

You can use Mumsnet you can use Tesco to get a delivery. It's not exactly hard.
He did what you asked, he went to a shop, he's not a mind reader 🙄 eating "crap" as you call it won't harm anybody for a couple of days and I'm sure he can go to get better food tomororw

Why the fuck should she when she’s ill and there’s another (apparently) fully functioning adult in the house who should be able to organise appropriate food for the children.

It never ceases to amaze me how they can make SUCH incredibly half arsed effort to do a job astoundingly badly and then take complete umbrage to the fact you’ve A) noticed and B) aren’t thrilled.

It seems like entitlement on their part to me, it’s like they expect a standing ovation for their entirely underwhelming performance and I simply couldn’t fathom exerting that level of cocksure arrogance in day to day life myself. I’m almost quite jealous of it.

That sounds good to me. Add in some wine & and pop, and you've got yourself an awesome weekend

😂🤣😂

Eating the food can't be new to him though. He must know what food everyone is eating week in week out.

The usual contrarians will be on this thread acting like "cool" wives who are so unbothered by this. But my husband would manage a shop without a list. He knows which meals we eat in regular rotation and knows we need bread, milk, eggs etc always topped up.

It's not difficult and of course a lot of frozen crap from the Spar isn't going to cut it.

Oh what! Under Mumsnet guide you “better get your ducks in and row” and “leave the bastard”

Clearly your H needs more practice at meal planning, supermarket shopping and cooking nutritious meals on a budget; I would suggest he take over all these tasks going forward and he practices until he gets it right.

Surely he can't want to be this incompetent?

With flu? Why should she?
Surely anyone with a partner / spouse who is an adult without any learning difficulties should be capable of managing getting appropriate food in for their family?

This would piss me off big time. Is he usually a useless man-child? If so, I’m team LTB 🤣

Literally no-one would be berating a women who was having to work full time, plus solo parent the kids and look after their sick husband for deciding to rely on ready meals for a weekend. It'd be all "you need to make it easy for yourself" and "you need to look after yourself when you'vegot so much on your plate", "it's OK to drop your standards if it helps you make it through".

Oh it’s not the end off the world is it now just eat the chocolate and cheer up xx

Exactly
Im seeing double standards

But he did do what she asked.

He just didn't do what she wanted.

I've never seen an unbranded frozen ready meal. Why shouldn't anyone in OP's family eat one, though?

This is such bullshit. OP isn't upset because he chose Morrisons over Tesco. She's upset because he went to a local Spar and couldn't even manage to purchase the few fresh staples they sell even in those shops.

I find it sad that so many of the 'cool wives' have set their bar so low that they would genuinely be fine if their partner returned with this food instead of normal food for the weekend. Or assumed that even though they were very ill, they should organise an online shop.

You can use MN, you can use the See all function to read OP's posts and see that they don't do Tesco deliveries in her area.

Why does an adult man who presumably works in an adult job suddenly turn into a toddler when it comes to domestic life? My 7 year old would know not to fill a basket with rubbish at the shop.

I doubt she would have got any ready meals had she been well and he been the one who was sick.